Be yourself, I know that it's difficult to attempt to recoup while suffering from a heartache. But if you be yourself, that's how you'll be able to even have a shot at your relationship. You could take the other route though and be the person you think he needs. However your relationship would be based upon lies. And despite the belief that "it's not that big of a deal", it is. If you don't be yourself, you WILL eventually fall into a depression, thereby making you unhappy and essentially snowballing your relationship. You've gotta be yourself, If he doesn't like you for who you are that way and fall back in love with you, then you've gotta ask yourself if it's really worth being with someone who doesn't like you for who you are.
Hello Tessa, you did the right thing in reaching out.
With your emotions on the fritz, what you need is an infusion of the truth. Contact him and level with him. Tell him exactly how you feel, and just ask him outright if the two of you have any chance at being together again. If he says yes, go for it, if he says no, then move on and live your life.
The meaning of life is to give your life meaning, nobody can do it for you, and it is the most severe form of neglect to presume to live your life for the sake of someone else, (Excluding the raising of a child), or to make the worth of your life dependent on another person.
If you feel the need to talk to someone, or if you feel you might hurt yourself or someone else, do not hesitate to contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255, their lines are open 24 hours a day.
Please keep in contact and let us know how things progress. Never forget that you matter, and you are not alone.
try to reach out as a friend first and see where it goes from there! i know it seems like you need him, but you dont! you are strong and independent. everyone is, they just need to find it in themselves. find more friends to confide in, dont limit yourself to one person! c:but if you really want more support from this, PLEASE feel free to message me. im going through this Same thing right now with my ex, and it might be cool for each of us to be able to talk about it with someone who reallyreaally understands. hope i was at least a tiny bit helpful c:
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