I have always found it very hard to make and answer phone calls. I get extremely anxious about what I need to say and not having any way to predict what the person on the other end will say and usually I end up freezing up and causing awkward silences which make me feel even more anxious and crappy about myself. It causes me to stutter also. Does anyone else have this problem? Can anyone think of a good way to counter this? I also have trouble with even logging onto my email and social networking sites because of a fear of bad news.
I actually had a buddy that had a phobia of phone calls also! She would also resent texting on occasion. I believe she has overcome it but extreme exposure.When she started the exposure, she could ONLY speak to people on the phone, if they were standing right next to her, she or they would have to call to speak. It sounds really stupid... but it definitely had a huge positive effect on her.Let your family on it and start making some short distance phone calls and then work your way up - would be my advice!
I used to have the same problem. I would even end up crying on the phone while talking to the person who called. And I would be afraid to check social networking sites too. For the phone call phobia, I suggest facing it and start answering phone calls (start with family members first). For the fear of bad news part, I suggest learning this prayer: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
I really hate phone calls too! At least personal ones, like I hate chatting with people on the phone it feels awful. Even texting I don't like all that much. I think it's some psychological thing that has something to do with not being able to see the person's face/body language or something? I don't know. Anyways since it's only really personal phone calls that make me the most anxious I generally just tell people that I hate talking on the phone because it makes me nervous and they're cool with it.
I struggle with this too. Have done for years. I'm ok talking to people i'm closest too especially my mum. If its anyone i don't know rings i can't answer it, also if i need to phone someone i can't. I always get someone else to do it. Is there anything that can make it easier really?!?