How can i communicate better?


When it comes to deep personal conversations,(especially about myself) i freeze up and cant find the words i need to convey.i become a deer in headlights, blinded by questions i either don’t know the answer to, or am too scared to find out. This makes it difficult to talk with my husband. i have sent emails and messages before,but most of the time i’d just rather not say anything in case of miss communication. i know sending emails is a good start, but it doesn’t really address my initial issue of not being able to communicate verbally. how can i over come this speed bump that seems like an electric fence?

Category: Tags: asked October 5, 2013

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I have the same problem. I know in my case the problem is that often, I can't identify exactly what emotion I'm feeling or why. One thing that has helped me is to keep a journal. Writing privately to myself allows me to ruminate on all the possible causes of my emotion and coming back to read what I've written after the fact often helps me to see exactly what the problem was. It also helps to organize my thoughts so I can explain myself clearly when I do decide to talk to someone. Just out of curiosity, is your husband a good listener? Does he have patience to help you try to understand what you're feeling? I know a lot of times having a good listener can make all the difference in the world. It might be a good idea to see a psychologist, that's something that has also been helpful in identifying the cause or reasoning behind some of my emotions. I hope this helps! Good luck!
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