How can I become cold hearted.?

I don't want this to come across as condescending in any way, but you can't worry about being cold hearted sweetie. You're only 13 years old, and if I'm correct that means middle school. Middle school sucks I won't sugar coat it, but life gets SO much better. I'm a junior in high school and I can relate with the shitty middle school experience. But just keep holding on, maybe attempt not to trust people so easily, but don't get a cold heart, not yet. Stay strong beautiful.

Hey I may not know what you're exact situation is but I can relate a bit. I'm 15 years old and a sophomore in high school. When I was 13 I was very mentally and emotionally unstable, I would also cry myself to sleep a lot. Talking to people about feelings is not a weakness, it's a strength, however school sucks because you can't talk about your feelings. If absolutely no one could talk about how they felt inside the crime rate would skyrocket. You may not understand this right now but I'm just going to say it. Pain is necessary in life, it is inevitable. The human race would have been extinct without pain (you would want to know if you're being burned by the stove). Right now you are suffering and there's a quote from Buddha that goes: "Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional." You can choose in what way you react to certain things (https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/some-assembly-required/201401/pain-is-inevitable-suffering-is-optional). To get to the point, life gets better not because the pain will end but because you will learn how to wield your mind better. I recommend writing your feelings in some sort of journal, I do that and it has done wonders for me. I believe in you, we all believe in you, you can make it. When I was your age I thought my life was over in my darkest moments. It turns out that I was wrong, it was just my emotions telling me that which runs wild during the teen years.

I'm 15. And I'm not going to bullshit you by telling you it will get better. Because honestly, for some people it really doesn't. Not for a while and I won't give you a time limit because there isn't one. Thats reality, that's what we have to face. I have been wanting to be cold hearted for the longest, but the sad part is, we can't. There's no such thing as being emotionless. We care no matter what, and some of us care too much, hun. It's how we are. But caring too much, it means you're passionate, and passionate people, they have so much to offer. Trust me, hun, you don't want to become someone who doesn't know what it's like to care. It hurts others around you, but mostly, it hurts you. Because if you try to block everything out, the hate, anger, heartache, sadness, and bottle it all up, one day you'll explode and you won't bounce back for a long time. It happened to me two years ago. I broke down and couldn't stop for months. You think it's bad now? Wait til you try keeping to yourself and hiding everything and shutting people out. Breakdowns will smack you straight in the face. So no, hun, there is no such thing as not feeling anything. But what you can do, is talk to someone. If you don't feel like talking, write it down, if that doesn't help, take a minute and just breathe. Go outside and take a few hours to yourself. Just remind yourself that one day, it may not be now or tomorrow or the next day but one day, you won't feel like this anymore. But you're still young and learning to cope with emotions and growing up. But, if you can't handle it now, how do expect to do it next year? Or the year after? Just one day at a time, hun. Don't think about what might happen, just keep a good pace and take it one day at a time. If you ever need anything, inbox me anytime and I'll talk to you about anything. Even if it's just about your day :)