I’ve been beginning to feel a little uncomfortable listening recently as I don’t seem to be received well because of the way I talk and come across. I sometimes have trouble acting as a venter as well, but I have had some people who have been understanding. It frustrates me though that I have to say I’m a little OC when it comes to language for people to accept me. I don’t have a disorder, I just find it difficult to talk and deal with someone who is lazy with their writing – some people reading this might have spoken to me. I like it when people construct a sentence with a capital letter to begin with, and when they use punctuation. I find some people ask questions as though it’s a statement. I don’t know why it bothers me but it does.
I feel a little judged though. I am not judging people. I don’t mind misspellings, because I understand that English isn’t the first language of people but when I can see they are able to speak perfectly well but fall on basic grammar it disappoints me. I just feel like they do it to fit in with everyone else, or they really are just lazy. I don’t tend to listen much anymore because often people do this and I am not one for making their issue worse by bringing it up.
The thing is though, listeners have told me I come across quite cold. Some have said passive-aggressive. I’m okay with this, I have heard that phrase many times and I know what it means. I have been trying to be less so but it’s also just part of my personality. I don’t always mean to be passive, often I just think it’s humorous. I know this is wrong, and I find it frustrating that this can’t be understood unless I say I have some sort of personality/cognitive disorder that keeps me from being able to empathise with people.
I want to be able to help people here, I really do. I just don’t know how I can be received better. I’m not really a sociable person, never really have been, but I have a heart just like any other and I care about people a great deal. I just lack tact sometimes and I don’t mean any harm in it – but how do I reign it in?
Any suggestions would be grateful. I ask here because I am a member but I don’t want people to think less of me for this.