How am I supposed to vent?

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Okay, so in general when I am venting it seems like the people I vent to take my issues personally, like as if they are offended by what I am saying as if that my words are directed at them, when I make sure to tell them they are not, and anyway, why would a random person who only spoke to me once or twice take it personally when it is obvious that it isn’t about them?
I am just so confused about how I am supposed to vent, because I am starting to hate telling people my problems because lately I just don’t feel any improvement at all.

EDIT***: When I vent, I really don’t blame people, I just tell my feelings towards things or just my feelings.

asked November 20, 2014

5 Answers

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If youre venting about things like being a homophobe, racist or sexist then well.. anyone would be offended
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But guys, I wasn't doing any of that. I was simply stating my feelings about my self.
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Then its just weird
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I agree with "Sameen", it all depends on the person and their ability to stay impartial to the topic or feelings. It's the listener's job to have an open mind and be respectful to the venter. To wrap this up, unless you are being blatantly offensive (which I doubt you are) then it's not your fault, try 'PMing' Blah members you can trust or me for a little while and maybe try the chat room again. Much luck and good fortune I wish upon you.
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It could be that they feel the same way about themselves and took what you said to them at heart. Empathy overload. Its happened to me before when i had a listener going through a similar problem at the same time i went through it. It also depends on what you talk about. Venting about a topic the listener holds dear, you wont get the best reactions :) . thats why as a listener, we should try to be as unbiased as we can and listen for reasons and causes before beginning to judge/ disagree with the venter. My inbox is always open to you Yazan :) I do empathise best with emotions and feelings towards things and people, especially mental bonds we make unconsciously with objects and people, so if i can be of any help in that department, just PM me. ^^