I am a 26 year old female who is attractive, confident, two college degrees, no children and I’m very loyal. For the past 2 years or so, I have been dating a wonderful man. We ironically are from the same city. He is in Afghanistan currently and we have been separated for about 11 months and he is returning very soon in May 2014. He also has a Bachelor’s degree, same age and no kids, I know surprising! He is very intelligent and a huge thinker sometimes too much for his own good. He was in a 2-3 year relationship with a girl in college who took advantage of him, time and time again she would cheat and she would tell him, but he would stay and hope she would stop. Then he thought he was in love and bought a ring to propose. He held onto it to make sure and the same week she told him she cheated on him for like the 4th time but this time with his friend. He broke it off and it took him 2 depressed years to get over this rachet girl. He didn’t believe in marriage anymore and thought all girls were scandalous. We share our heartbreaks about our exes and he told me he was over all of it. My issue is as we progressed and I become his official girlfriend he started to question my whereabouts, who certain people were, the clothes I wore etc. He would overthink and dig deep into things and ask a million questions. Each time I would assure him he is the only one. Mind you, that I NEVER gave him reason to doubt me or think I was unfaithful…it’s because of his past pain and has even admitted that he knows he has a problem and that he finally started really trusting me after one whole YEAR of us being together. That really hurts a genuine woman like me! So I gave him an ultimatum and told him I would have to walk away b/c the main ingredient in a relationship is trust and he doesn’t fully have that for me. So he begs me not to leave him and promised he would change. I even went to counseling separately and he has done 2 over-the phone- sessions there which has helped me but he thinks his didn’t b/c he said he already knew everything. Let me give you some other information on my pain besides him not trusting me: before deployment he planned to propose and told all my co-workers and his too but he didn’t go thru with it because he wanted a better ring and decided it’s best if he was here so we can enjoy it together. I was left here to answer questions from people who didn’t understand why it didn’t happen. That was very embarrassing and took me a while to get over and want an engagement period. On top of that, before we were “official” I found a half naked girl in his phone and another girl that called him at 4am. He handled both incidents and I haven’t had any issues since then which was like 2 years ago, but wouldn’t you think I was the one with TRUST issues?! Lastly, let me give you some example of his trust problems which have heightened since he has been deployed: I threw him a lavish SURPRISE going away party before he left and after I threw it he told me he thought I was cheating on him b/c I was secretive- duh I was planning as surprise! Mind you this is 2 weeks before he left and then he realized that he should trust me (after 1 year of us together) and that he should of proposed. I went to a comedy club with my girls, took a pic with the famous comedian and he was upset b/c I took a group pic with my friends and the comedian had his hand around my waist. Not in any certain way, it was a regular pose and he went crazy saying that’s a pose only couples do. Then, I went to the strip club for the FIRST time with my girls he was happy for me b/c this was the time period he was supposed to be working on trust and he tells me “I trust you ,have a good time, throw some $, let ur hair down” etc like he was cool with it. Two weeks past and obviously it’s been on his mind and he asks me in depth questions about the strippers which I told him I wouldn’t answer bc I know how he gets and got so mad bc I wouldn’t tell him! It’s like he tells me he trusts me to convince himself first, which is not genuine to me. I’ve wrote to much I know…but recently he told me he thinks I have another guy lined up or that I might be seeing someone else randomly which threw me over the top bc I have been totally loyal. I have cut off any guy friends, stopped going out to avoid issues, and I tell him everything. Everything else about him is PERFECT. In essence, He treats me good and bad at the same time. He always sends flowers, sentimental gifts, goes out of his way but he doesn’t realize I’m yearning for his trust which is not the same as these love gestures. He tells me he wants to get engaged as soon as he comes home and that I’m his soulmate, I’ve given him reason to believe in love again etc. I urgently need to decide something before he retuns bc he lives with me My friends tell me to stick with him bc I can’t find a man who is 100%. Can his trust issue be fixed?? What should I do? Is this enough to walk away from?