Ok so, this problem regards the relationship between my brother and I (he’s 18, I’m 21). Since we were kids we were like twins: ALWAYS together. We would share the candies they gave us, we would share lunch and dinner, we would play all day in the most creative way possible, even our diaries and and our workbooks for drawing were shared (half page was written or draw by him, and half by me). I was so into it, that even if in middle school I was alone and didn’t want to have friends, I was happy having my best buddy near me: yet, I was a little mean to him, because I was still the bigger one, and sometimes we would fight for this, but we would quickly make peace playing or watching a cartoon.
But our relationship changed when I entered high school. He was still the joyful little kid with energy and a lot of friends (he was that kind of person in your class that is active and makes you laugh: that kind of classmate you can’t avoid) so he searched for me a lot of times to play, and it all begun there, with continous fights. They were even more frequently, but you know, he’s the type that teases you until you become crazy, and laughs at you. So everyday was like this: he would enter my room without knocking, asking me to play, than tease me until I explode because I didn’t want to play, and goes away.
Until now, I’ve never felt sorry because, you know, it was a hard time for me with the studies and my parents (I lost an year of school after that, so it was hell for me). That year we broke the bond, and you don’t know how much I miss it.
I think he understood what I was going through, because I don’t remember him teasing me anymore after. So, without realizing it, he grow up: he became taller than me and with a deep voice; he became a rap music lover, a gamer and, as he was as a kid, full of friends. He didn’t need me anymore.
I could see he changed. That cheerful boy I once knew, who would rush to my mother if she needed help, or would always smile and laugh, became gloomy and quiet.
And now, after this loooong story (sorry) I’m asking you how to rebound our connection. We actually have another brother, and he as well lost a little contact with him (they talk, but he never know what to talk about to him).
So yeah, that’s pretty much how it is. Years ago, when he had a girlfriend, I always found out by our friends of from my mother, he never told me anything about his love life, and it’s ok, but I wish he could come to me sometimes and vent or talk, without me asking him “Hey how was your day” with that same answer “normal”, and then I have to be specific “Yeah, but WHAT happened?”.
Thanks, and I’m so sorry it came out so long…