Help with dealing with flooding emotions… please read!

Ok. So I asked a question on here yesterday and got some really great responses that really helped me. (Basically I let someone back into my life that most definitely does not deserve to be a part of my life and I have been feeling guilty and very regretful for letting them come back in so easily.) I have a follow up question/ concern to that. I am going to cut contact but how do you deal with the flooding of emotions that come whenever that person contacts you again.. thats my problem! I have a enormous amount of compassion/ empathy for people and thats what got me here in the first place. I feel so guilty when I ignore others feelings/ concerns (I know I’m a mess right now! haha) but yeah.. how do you all deal with the flooding of emotions that come when you hear from someone you used to care about but don’t want in your life anymore?

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KellyMichelle:)

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The first thing is to constantly remind yourself that you do not need that person and that contacting them is a bad thing. You will feel very strong urges to just go back to them and let them back in but you have to ignore them. Remind yourself that this person is not good for you. Even though ignoring them might make you feel a little bit guilty right now, in the long run your life will be much better without them. If you feel like you might respond to their message, distract yourself. Go for a walk, watch TV, talk to a friend, anything! It will get easier as time goes on, I promise :)

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sad99

I understand your feelings.When I was going though similar stuff, I had to force myself to remember WHY I had to cut her out of my life in the first place. And actually, when I talked to her again she made it very easy for me to remember!Also, it's very easy to confuse missing a person with missing FEELINGS instead. Trust that someone will come along and make you feel those things again and the other person will simply become a distant memory.Feel better.

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Get in the Tardis

If the person hurt you then you need to let them go. Sometimes it's okay to forgive people but from what it sounds like they don't deserve it. I find it so so hard to just cut people out of my life who had once been such a significant part of my life but you have to just shut them out because, although it will hurt for a while to be without them, it will feel so much better to have that release afterwards rather than having a heavy miserable weight on your shoulders. You can take your mind of it by going out with friends, taking up new hobbies and all of that general stuff. It all helps!

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Amy