Help me with my girlfriend issue!

People are funny with what they want. Sometimes people start relationships at different points in their lives for different reasons. Maybe she wanted a more physical relationship before and got tired of it, maybe she was trying it out to see if it would fit her, just because she had a different type of relationship before does not mean that's all she wants. Your reaction is actually not unreasonable, you know her as a different type of person and it seems (let me know if I'm wrong here) that you are more shocked and confused then angry. Those reactions are fine and reasonable, you have been told that a person you love was very sexually active with someone who is not you. Almost nobody reacts well to that. What would be the ideal reaction? certainly nothing positive. You need to talk to her about this and try to reestablish some communication, ideally she would bring it up but I'm drawing a blank as to the specific how to. Most importantly don't assume you are holding her back, shes an adult and if she feels there is a problem it is on her to bring it to your attention. Don't assume she wants something like what she had before. After all she's not with them, she's with you.

Rule 1. dont do long distance relationships. Rule 2. Be cautious if you consider going into one. Rule 3. if you do one, expect it to end at some point.LDR's are tricky, and if you're already worried about such things it shows you're not a trusting person (with this person at least) in nature, so in the event that anything DOES occur (you think she might be talking to someone else, vanishes for a week, etc), its going to bother you to no end.With that said, youre right, she did this BEFORE being with you, so it doesn't matter. However, the fact that she went from loving/masturbating to person A, to going into a relationship with person B (you), is a sign of weak commitment and a dangerous thing to start a relationship on.

I definitely think, you should talk to her. Doesn't matter if she gets mad, those are things you should know. Ask her any and every question possible that will help you feel better. Just make sure you tell her the reason you're asking and that you're not criticizing or judging her. If not, she'll feel like you don't like or trust her.

@kalifornia kisses: in my opinion, and from personal experience, that is bad advice. The details of this situation do not actually effect the relationship, and knowing detailed answers to such questions could potentially cause more harm than good.In the past I was cheated on. I thought to get through it I needed to know everything. I pushed and pushed for the answers and every time I got one, it just made things worse for me until I myself became a monster in the relationship and further destroyed it.Don't ask questions you really don't want the answers to.