To lose one’s best friend and lover is an unbearable agony… To know they are hurt, and you incapable of reaching them tears you apart. But to know that, even if you could, they don’t desire that? A pain worse than death itself…
He’s angry with me because I didn’t want him getting involved in my lgbt group project. Various members including myself have been attacked. I was only trying to protect him…. He got really hurt….he won’t confess how. He’s in the hospital, and I have no wy to get there. Even if I could, he doesn’t want me there…
How do I fix this? I want us to be happy a in…I want him safe….I want him to stop pushing me away….
If he went out of his way and got himself hurt and somehow blames that on you, then I know it hurts, but you cannot blame yourself for this. He could have reigned in his impatience and waited to talk to you, but instead he ran off and got involved in something he didn't understand, now he is hurt.
Report the assaults on your group to the police, and look into getting in touch with the ACLU and other groups supporting LGBT rights.
Don't blame yourself for what happened to him, it was out of your control, it was his choices that lead to him getting hurt and while it's not fair of him to be mad at you, give him some space. It's hard, I know, but if that's what he wants, try and respect his wishes. Give him some time to cool of, and try to approach him again, tell him what you're feeling. Communicate.
And as Jonathan said, report the attacks to the police. Who knows, maybe they are the ones who are responsible for why someone you care about is currently hurting.
Why should I apologize for him going out and getting hurt? He knows nothing of the community, and he doesn't need to be an idiot and get himself hurt over my project.
Also, I'm not a grown man. I'm a 16 year old girl. So, yeah. @candlewick866