okay so im 18 and I got with my ex when I was 15.. we just broke up and he already has a new girlfriend, he waited exactly two weeks.. the breaking up part is hard enough to cope with but then now he has a new girlfriend is a whole new level of hurt how do I make the pain go away… (especially when 3 days ago he called to “let me know” that im the only girl he sees his self with and he wants me to be the mother of his children and the wife that he saw me becoming when we were together..)
I understand your pain. It's unbearable and confusing. But don't be fooled. I can't tell you what he's trying to do because I'm not in his head. He could possibly been trying to make you his "go back girl" someone he will come back to when he's done with his current girlfriend or when if his relationship with this girl fails. Or he's exploring his option. I can't tell you why he's doing this.
But I can tell you that this heart ache isn't what you deserve. You want to make it go away? Do things that make you happy. Be around people who make you laugh. Spend your time doing things you love to do. keep yourself busy. If you feel like it's too much, know that it's okay to cry and feel sad, but not okay to live in that misery forever. Take your time. Time does heal all wounds.
The most important thing to remind yourself is what you're worth. Do you believe that you're worth? Do you believe that you deserve this? Do you want someone who is telling you thing you want to hear but then they turn around and do something that contradict their words? It's okay to hurt for now.But you are strong and courageous to keep going. There is one person you have to believe in and that person is you. You do deserve better. You deserve someone who will give you the world. Acceptance and honesty about the relation you two has shared will give you peace in your heart and you'll find the strength you need to carry forward. But it takes time. So give yourself time, do things you enjoy doing, and determine just how much worth you are. Because in all honesty you are worth the world. Always remember that.Check out this video: this is what I done to help me get through a break up.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=trWgx7YoZyk#t=490
Guys at that age are different then the men they will someday become. Someday, he may apologize for the way he behaved today, but that doesn't really help you. When I got divorced, some of my 'bros' told me that getting with a new girl would help me forget the pain of losing the old one. They were way more crude about it, and we all had a laugh, then we went back to normal. If I were a younger man, that advice would have been more compelling. I imagine that's what is going on with him.
The question is how to make the pain go away, and I have bad news for you. The pain of losing your first love never really goes away. The best you can do is to have a cry over it, call your friends so you all can talk about what an a-hole he is, (BTW, they will tell you they knew he was no good for a long time. That's just what friends do.), and then you move on. You'll try not to make the same mistakes in the future, and this pain that you feel right now will help guide your choices.