He still wants me as a booty call…..

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So, yeah, I’m having a guy problem, and this time , he isn’t my boyfriend.

The guy in question is a good.friend, old crush and ex-boyfriend of mine. He’s 4 years older then me, but that really doesn’t matter.

Both of us are in steady relationships. But his girlfriend refuses to kiss him. She is one of the types to save her first kiss until marriage. To me thats awfully sweet, and a bit sad. And because of this, he’s getting pretty antsy. He keeps asking me to give him sexual favors, which I strongly refuse to do.

Mainly because I am incredibly happy with my current boyfriend, and because in the past, the first guy, rejected me repeatedly. And then he basically used me for sex. And I happen to think his girlfriend is a sweetheart.

He doesn’t believe me at all.

How can I convince him that I’m not interested, and that he should.stay with his girl?

Category: Tags: asked October 15, 2014

8 Answers

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Some times you have to be really firm and say "I am not interested in having any sexual encounter with you and if you suggest it again i will tell your girlfriend"
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I don't think you should threaten to tell his girlfriend, that just goes down a dark road where no one can win. She may not believe you. He may take up a war with your boyfriend, etc. etc. Drama, drama, drama. BUT you should enforce your boundary. You could tell him stop or you're not talking to him anymore. You can say "hey your girl is great but if you can't wait, don't look at me, find someone else." Really, his relationship isn't really for you to invest in. If he blows it, he blows it. But YOUR relationship IS up to you. I wouldn't think twice about giving in to just sex.
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Going to have to agree with JosielD, tell him you'll just show his girlfriend, warning you might get called a name or two but he should stop.
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Show his girlfriend the texts/msgs of him asking to have intercourse. The sweet girl does not deserve a pig like him who cant keep it in his pants. How dare he have the audacity to go to you. You should tell the girl of his wrongs. I mean if your boyfriend did that to you how would you feel? Would you want to be ignorantly dating someone like him?
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Tell him again to stop asking in the most assertive way you can. If that doesnt stop him, hes honestly being an asshole and you should just block the number completly.I personally wouldnt talk to someone who is 1.) Treating their sweet girlfriend like shit and 2.) Constantly ignoring your protests in sexual incounters. He sounds like a real jerk, so give him one last serious warning and if that doesnt do it, block his number or dont answer...
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Josie is right, just say to him straight that you are not interested and you don't want this anymore. If he persists then you have to go to his girlfriend and let her know. Don't let him control you like this.
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Tell him to visit a hooker if he wants sex outside of his relationship, I find it strange that he can be in a close relationship with his girlfriend and there is no kissing etc..
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If he doesn't respect your clearly stated "no," then he's not a very good friend at all and it doesn't sound like he respects women (or you) at all. This sounds like a toxic relationship and you should tell him in no uncertain terms that if he ever broaches the subject again that your friendship will be over. If he does it, follow through and find new friends who are better able to respect your clearly stated boundaries.