He says he loves me but wont be in a relationship with me? Does he really love me?

Some times though actions don't speak louder than words.
May be in this case he cant expresss to you what he feels perhaps he might hurt you in some way and thats why he cant be with you.
He might have issues you do not know about and thats also why he is ok with others but not with you,because it will hurt you too much knowing and he doesnt want that for you.May be??
How may times do we think we know some one,or something about a person to only later on find out we truly didnt.Thats why we say "dont judge a book by its cover" and some time the first few pages,and the ending isnt always what we think its going to be.<br/May be you should try to write an in depth letter to him,but not throwing it all back on him,just on expressing your feelings and why perhaps he says he loves you but cant commit.See if he responds to it,if not,then you mght just have to forget all this and try your best to move on.

How old are you hun? it makes a big difference. .... If it was me I would move on. it honestly sounds like he tells you he loves you so you keep holding on so when he wants you or wants something you will be there. .. BUT in saying that I know how incredibly hard it can be to let someone go and often times people keep holding on long after they realize they shouldn't. and even when you think you have let go you really havnt. You should talk to him and tell him you think he is playing you. He will say he isn't even if he is but hopefully you can tell by his body language.. But as I said I would move onGood luck

I agree with Sarah as well. But you know this guy better than we do. He might be afraid of committing to you because he might feel like this is really true. Or he might just be stringing you along. If it were me, I'd try to understand the situation, but at the same time I'd try maintaining a distance. But yeah, if he had positive intentions, it'd be easy to know because of his bodylanguage. Just be careful and try not to get hurt. xx

I just went through the same thing. We were together for over 9 months. For a while I started feeling as if I was putting so much time and energy into something that wasn't there. I would always ask him if we were ever going to be in a relationship. He never gave me the answers that I wanted to exactly hear, but he gave me answers that kept me holding on to whatever it was that we had. Later on I realized, that he was full of excuses. I don't know why we all hang on to something we know we are better off letting go. It's like we're scared to lose what we really don't even have. Some of us say we would rather have something than nothing at all, but the truth is...to have something halfway is harder than not having it at all because at the end of the day, you aren't officially together and there's no commitment. I know how hard it is to let go, especially when that person makes you believe that one day, you guys will be together. But I learned that sometimes people just say things because they know that is what you want to hear. I wanted to know the truth and I didn't want to feel like I was wasting my time so I wrote him an in depth letter and expressed my feelings towards him and that made me realize that there was never going to be an actual "us". I say you write him a letter expressing your feelings just like I did and take it from there.

I don't really get that. If you love someone wouldn't you want to be in a relationship with them? But maybe he's scared and worried. I'm kinda in a sort of similar thing where someone I care about has told me they want me, but they haven't tried to be in a real relationship of that sort. But we're good the way we are, even though it hurts sometimes

Agree with Sarah. Also, if someone truly loves you, they will show it with their actions, and let that do the talking.