He says he loves me, but why don’t I feel it?

Ive been dating my boyfriend for about a year. In the beginning he was very attentive naturally, then it stopped. Then several months later he started being very affectionate again, then it stopped. I feel like he is very inconsistent, and it makes me feel insecure in the relationship. He will tell me he loves me, but I feel he doesn’t show it. He is not very romantic either. I’ve voiced my concerns to him a few times, but I still feel the same. I want to feel wanted and special, and I just don’t seem to feel that from him. Am I over-analyzing things?

Category: Dating & Relationships asked October 6, 2014

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slinkjazz

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Perhaps try sitting him down and talking to him again. If you are unhappy in the relationship, voice it. Let him know all you want to do is be reassured that he cares for you.

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Panpag

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Maybe you should stop focusing on feeling it? Guys go through stages of being romantic then not not being... they are weird creatures honestly... :(

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PoppyLou

Truthfully there's a lot you could and couldn't do with this situation but I think the one thing you should do is ask yourself whether or not you actually love him and be brutally honest with yourself. A relationship shouldn't be based on just the affection he gives you but also on what type of person he is and whether you feel attracted to that person even when he isn't giving you affection. If the answer is yes you do love him, I suggest you talk to him about the insecurities you have in the relationship and then it can go from there.

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pushingFate

Sometimes people need more than just a hint on how to be romantic. If he doesnt get it after subtle remarks, and still doesnt get it after a few voiced concerns, then you'll have to sit him down, look him in the eyes, and lay it out flat. Be straightforward in telling him what you need and tell him how he can fufill these needs. Sometimes its easier to just tell people than wait for them to figure it out.

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PeachTrie

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You should tell him that, so he can correct his mistakes, and vice versa

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Dung

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