Have you found the venter/listener chat helpful?

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I have had a few really bad experiences. There are way too many judgemental people on there. I guess I haven’t come across anyone genuine. I mean, i know they’re not professionals but hey, at least TRY and listen to what I have to say before throwing random insults against me. *Feeling Stressed*

Category: asked April 1, 2014

14 Answers

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Unfortunately that's the danger of any anonymous forum. It would be nice to have some kind of screening process before people are allowed to act as a listener, though.
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I can't speak for everyone: I've had troll "venters" who wasted my time before, and I've heard many tales of trolls doing much worse as listeners. But, in all that, I know there are a lot of genuine people. Whenever I get into chat, I take a deep breath, empty my mind, and focus all attention on helping whoever's in there with me.
So that makes at least one. I'm willing to chat whenever, with whoever. And I know there are many more like me.
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My first and only experience was venting and the person who I spoke with was a really genuinely nice guy. I would thank him again if I could. I'm sorry if anyone else had bad experiences :/ I came here because I was a member on another site since 2009 and so far, this is a million times better. Even there is a troll, it's not always easy, but ignore them and move on, it isn't worth the heartache.
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I've only gone on chat once and it was terrible. I went on as a venter and as soon as I started talking to my listener they basically told me that they didn't know what to tell me and then immediately left the chat. It sucked because I was really looking to talk to someone and it was of no help. I haven't been back on chat since.
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I spoke to only 3 people, the first left almost immediately after introduction, the second wasn't a troll, but they wouldn't let me finish telling them something without inserting some piece of advice. I ended up just politely ending the conversation, and the third person was very nice. not inserting advice without letting me explain
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Well, I can't really speak for anyone else, but I know that I do my best to really listen and give the most fair advice I can, I'd like to think I've helped some people, they seem to be pretty grateful, which of course is always a good feeling. I think it really depends on who you come across. That being said, if you need someone to talk to, feel free to drop me a line. I'd be happy to lend an ear....or eyes...You know what I mean. Haha.
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I only talked to two people and they both sucked. The first person exited after I asked my question/told them my problem. The second time, the person answered, but gave a very bad answer. Very disappointed...
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I accually met my at-one-time friend on there that we talked for like almost a year. And yes, there is helpful people on there :)
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Oh wow, that's pretty unlucky hey. I haven't had any bad listeners or venters really. A majority of them have all been really respectful. Like you know, treat someone the way you want to be treated. The first time I went on as a venter I had some really nice genuine chats with some guys and they were really helpful with my problems even though they weren't as big.
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strangely enough heres how it works for me, i always come on here as a listener and one time did to vent.. when i have something happening to me, what makes me feel better is being able to help someone else through something. Meaning, i have an emotional investment to listen, be honest, give the best advice i can, and do what i can for a positive resolution. Perhaps not the best motive from me, but its my reason! and its what keeps me from being rude, or negative, because that doesnt work for you, and it doesnt work for me!
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I'm so sorry you had to deal with people being judgmental and hurtful on a site such as this. I hope those people realize they could severely tip the balance of someone who is possibly on the edge of killing themselves! It sickens me to think that there are people who would be that mean to someone who needs help. As for me, I've found every person I've been able to speak with to be very nice, though some of them seemed to not be sure how to help me (my problems are...difficult, so I don't blame them). But I'm positive that if you keep joining up you'll find plenty of amazing people willing to help you out.
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That's terrible. I wonder if you could report them? I've never been a venter before but as a listener, I tend to get really nervous initially because I'm afraid of pushing the other person away some how. I have had a lot of good experiences with it though. Only a few trolls which were swiftly reported and added some entertainment into the mix :P I haven't been a listener for a while but that's only because the last person kind of took me off guard. It started going in an inappropriate direction and I tried to get it back on track but it was kind of awkward. After I thought about it afterwards, I came up with the perfect thing to say if I encounter a person with a similar problem again. I suppose I just need to suck it up and have more confidence in my ability to help ;) I don't feel it is that hard as it's mostly just listening, asking the right questions and getting the venter to process through what they think and feel. They already have the answers inside of themselves.
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It all depends who you get, it really helped me when me and my sons father had just broken up I got some very nice people who gave me great advice and now I am on here to help others that's the way it should be
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I think almost all of us have had such experiences. I've had my time wasted by troll venters and I have actually come across a rude listener. But I know that there are many people out there who genuinely want to help. Whenever I go in as a listener, I always make it a point to try and make the venter comfortable. Some are worried about being judged and although anonymous, its still scary. If I come across a venter whom I cannot help, I'll just admit it and apologize.My first experience on the chat was when I was venting and my listener was a really understanding guy. It was a very helpful experience. It sucks that you went through this, but don't give up hope. There's tons of good listeners out there, and if you'd like to talk, I'm here to listen as well. Take care xx


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