Have you been asked?

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Hey, I just got into a chat with a venter, and the first thing they asked was “Hi m or f?” This took me by surprise so I said “I’m a male, you?” and then they disconnected.. This annoyed me slightly, as I thought I was going to be able to help someone, I’m worried that this site might turn into a kind of “Omegle chat” which I don’t really want.. So, I was wondering if this had ever happened to you? :/

Category: Tags: asked December 25, 2013

12 Answers

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accepted
Always been like this, just accept maybe they preferred to talk to another gender. Being a listener and having a sense of entitlement creates problems, you'll get also people who after ten minutes will say "You are not helping" and disconnect. It's best to shrug it off.
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Not yet, thankfully. I don't really like the idea of being disconnected just because I happen to be a female, or if I was a male, just because of that. Of course, there are things that I'd rather vent about to a girl, but at least I think I should tell the other person that this is something I don't want to discuss with a male.And if it's turning to Omegle, just no thank you.
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I normally don't tell people about whether i'm a male or not, because most questions I can answer about a girl or guy, it just ticked me off slightly .-.
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Yes but sometimes its not what you think. Maybe the venter's issue was gender specific. Like what if it was a girl who had period troubles? You never know.
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I know that I sometimes prefer to talk to one gender over the other just because it makes me more comfortable. You will never know why that person disconnected, but try not to talk it too personally. :)
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It hasn't happened to me yet, don't take it personally though. Maybe the venter wanted to speak to a female about a topic they wouldn't want to talk to a male about? Although this doesn't bother me and I'm willing to talk to anybody about it, maybe it was a shy teenage girl with period issues? Just be there for people, that's all you can do.
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I haven't got that but I used to get someone who asked for a specific age range and disconnect once they found out I wasn't. It might be a troll but might not. Maybe the person wanted to get a girl's opinion. If so, he or she should have disconnected in a nicer way though. Don't mind it. The amount I have met with sincere venter outweighs trolls by a lot more. Perhaps asking why they are asking for the gender before answering. Imo, if they disconnected without answering or explaining why, most likely it's trolls.

I guess this is a good place to remind everyone here, if you want a specific point of view or opinion, please do explain. Might cause misunderstanding :)
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This just happened to me but it was worse, they asked what is your name, I said Ashley and they disconnected haha
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It's been a week already and I don't think I've ever experience the "omegle chat" here.. Most people here are genuine and real, they have something that troubles their minds, they need a solution. I vented once or twice and the people I met were very nice.
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I have had this many times and also with age. Usually a venter just wants to be reassured about who they are talking to in regards to the topic (eg: pregnancy scares or how to ask a girl out). Don't take offence as the factors out of your control (gender, etc) may be a trigger for some venters too. Keep smiling and help as much as you can those who ask of it. :)
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It happened to me once or twice, i ended up answering it tho. Some topics are very touchy and sometimes venters want to vent to a certain sex about a certain topic in that area, But I REALLY hope not, good thing they don't have skip webcams for this site. Just make it work when someone asks, they maybe do actually need to know our sex in order for us to help. :) xoxo
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No, this isn't like omegle at all. Every person I got that asked me my age or my sex, it wound up making them more comfortable to talk to me. I would have been fine if I was the wrong age or they would have been more comfortable discussing their issues with a different sex. I'm here for them after all. It's not about me. Try to put yourself in their shoes. If they would feel more comfortable talking to someone closer in age or whatever, then they are more than welcome to find a better match and I will go on to chat with someone else who I can be of more use to.