Have I lost myself?

So lately I’ve been in such a routine that I don’t feel anything anymore! I go from school to workouts to homework to bed. Just the same old routine. I haven’t been able to make much time for a lot of my hobbies lately which doesn’t help or for my friends. Aside from that I just don’t feel like myself anymore. Like I ‘ll look in the mirror or at my own social networking sites profiles and just see someone that everyone expects me to be. I have so may adults who say that they expect me to be a leader, to get good grades, to always do everything right, to be on time to everything, to just be perfect at everything. Naturally, I’m a people pleaser and maybe I’ve overdone it this time! Sometimes I don’t even remember what makes me happy or what my own wants are or opinions are! I guess I’m just so caught up in meeting everyone’s standards for me. Any thoughts on what I should do?

asked May 19, 2015

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equestrian27

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Think long an hard on what makes you happy -- and do it for a change OP. These are the best years of your life, don't waste them trying to please everybody. If you do, you'll end up living your life regretting it. I'm only 19 and I'm already regretting not doing the shit I really wanted to do. Now I'm an employed adult and it sucks.

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Weeb Trash

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I struggle with the same problem every day. I think the best thing to do is be spontaneous and live in the moment. Instead of going to the gym one day, go out with friends. Try to vary your schedule so you don't feel like everything is the same. Set goals every week. Say, "If I can get through school and the gym and my normal general routine, I will reward myself by doing something fun." Plan something crazy like sky diving or going to an amusement park and going on all of the roller coasters or taking a road trip. Read a good book. Try to be yourself around people instead of the image of you that society wants you to be. Be spontaneous and it will feel great. Good luck!

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Dani