Has anyone cheated on spouse to get revenge?

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I often talk to my spouse as we dated and early on in our marriage that “if you ever cheated on me, I will have the right to cheat on you”. My spouse agreed to this. I found out my spouse has been secretly communicating with an EX for 14 years (mostly emails and one phone call). It’s flirting emails so it’s emotional affair, we agree. I’m now have the right to cheat. My spouse agreed to let me have a fling/one night stand. I want to have a one night stand but afraid if it turns to be more. What if I can’t let that person go? What if I really like that person more than one night stand?

Category: Dating & Relationships asked May 6, 2015

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rocksolid

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An eye for an eye and the whole world will be blind. When someone does a mistake, it doesn't give you the right to pay on the same coin and it's rather childish to think that way actually. If you think cheating is wrong, then you shouldn't do it yourself either. You two either talk it ou and clear things up or you decide it's not worth continuing together and break up. If you cheat on your loved one in revenge, it will not make things ok, you still will feel hurt just as much as she probably will after that and it's just a grudge you'll hold on each other for years to come

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Lunna

What the hell is wrong with you? Even I know that shit isn't right. Just because they made a mistake and it doesn't even sound like that big of a mistake you screwing somebody else isn't going to fix it. If you don't care any more about the relationship than that, you may as well just end it now.

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AnnieH

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Listen....getting revenge isn't a good thing, especially doing the same thing that your spouse did, if you did what your spouse did..then what makes you any better than her...your spouse isn't gonna stop at all, be the bigger person in the relationship and forgive them or come to a conclusion where bad decisions or acts are not involved. Try to forgive them, I know you might wanna feel that fufilling success of having revenge, but that success will just lead you to more problems...forgive..

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Connor.

I never have, never will. It's not good to play fire with fire. Being in a relationship requires faithfulness, honesty, love, and trust. A relationship with trust is like a car without gas. That deal was a foolish one to make, and I sincerely hope that you analyze the consequences of what you plan on doing. Trust me, honey, it's not going to make things any better by taking revenge on your spouse who cheated on you. The wise choice to make is to forgive, give him a second chance, let go of the past, and move on.

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Lightning Strikes