Growing feelings for friend over the internet, what to do?

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I’ve been talking to this person over the internet for about a year now (we’re both 20) and I think I’m falling into that trap of spending too much time and being too open with a person over the internet and beginning to crush on them. I think they’re very cute and a very nice person and they obviously appreciate my friendship but I’m noticing myself beginning to fantasize about what it would be like to be with this person – like anyone who’s into someone would. I’m not really sure what to do, should I just remain friends with this person and never mention this and just keep going on like we’re just friends and nothing will ever happen or do I just go on like this and hope that someday we may meet in person and then I can decide if I like this person and see if they like me too? Should I do things to avoid thinking so much about this person? I’m trying to be objective here and although I’m kinda maybe starting to get feelings for this person I also feel like one shouldn’t get romantically involved with someone they haven’t met in real life cause you don’t know how well your lifestyles and characters click even though you seem to get a long just fine over distant communication. Thanks in advance!

Category: Tags: asked March 17, 2015

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People are way different in real life than they are over the internet. Even if you skype with this person, you haven't seen them with their friends, or their family. You don't know the extent of their habits, their fears. Etc Etc. Trust me, it's amazing how different someone can turn out to be once you meet them in person, and how you can realize you really aren't romantically interested in them or even compatible together. It's happened to my friend a lot when she uses tinder. and it's happened to me a lot as well. It's a good way to find friends and people with similar interests, but it's not a good way to find a romantic partner. You can try it out and meet them in person first.
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It's easy to romanticize an online relationship in your head but this can be dangerous for multiple reasons. The best thing you can do to protect your heart and the heart of the other person is to arrange to meet in person (as friends, don't share your feelings at this initial meeting) and see if you jive well in person. If you can see them more often then maybe let them know how you feel after you've been hanging out for a while. Good things come to those who wait.
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You should request to meet him/her. If they feel comfortable then they should agree. If they feel the same they will reveal it to you. CX