My dad passed away when I was really young, and I only have one memory of him. But lately I’ve been thinking about him all the time. I write him letters and go visit his grave. But I don’t know if this is healthy. If anyone else has ideas about how to grieve, I would love to know them.
Grieving is not wrong, it is good that you remember him and care about him. Stress is what's unhealthy. Try to remember your father in good ways, that make you smile. Be positive about it, remember all the good things he did and the good memories you have. Try not to dwell on losing him. Most importantly, talk about it. Keeping emotions inside will only stress you out and make things worse. Try talking to your mom or sibling(s) and reminisce about the good things, or talk to someone who has no connection with your dad so you can vent without worrying about their emotional connection. Most likely, this is a phase and you will get past it, but there's nothing wrong with remembering(:
I don't think that what your doing is wrong but don't indulge yourself into this because then you'll just get really into it and on a worse factor, get depression and nobody wants that. Just try to stay happy - think happy thoughts and talk to your mum about it if your thinking about it a lot - maybe she could tell you happy memories about him that would keep you from thinking the worse of it. Good luck :)
My mom doesn't talk about him, and neither do my brother and sisters. The day he died, my mom received the letter stating their divorce was finalized. Hours later she got the call that he had passed. I would love to think about the happy times, but I don't remember any. I've tried to bring it up with my brother, he was 11 when he passed, but he doesn't like talking about it.