gaining confidence back

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Almost a month ago I found out that my girlfriend cheated in me (for the record we are not together anymore). Ever since then my confidence has gone down a lot. I don’t find myself as good of lookig as I use to, I feel like I can’t do enough in a relationship to make someone happy, but what bothers me the most is how good or not good I am at sex. Now she use to say to me that havig sex with me was the awesome, if not the best sex she has ever had. But I don’t get why she would cheat on me if our sex was awesome. That’s the thing that has really been tearing me up the most.

So how can I gain some confidence back?

asked May 2, 2014

2 Answers

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You have to realise that this is her problem, not yours.You may have done everything right but if she's still in a bad place then that wouldn't matter. I know it's hard but please don't blame yourself. I'm really sorry for what you've gone through and it sounds like your reaction is completely normal. I'm always here if you need someone to vent to :)
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You seem like such a nice guy and I hope you know that. In the end, it's her loss. She was the one who didn't care about the consequences when cheating. You shouldn't let your ex bring you down. It's easier said than done, that much I understand. For a while, don't focus on relationships or your ex. Remove that from your mind and leave it behind you. Just go through life, enjoying what you do, and show your ex that she can't keep you down. Gaining confidence will take time and you can do things to make you feel confident, for some time. Once in a while, dress up and look real nice just to walk around. Let others know the best sides of you. Good luck and I'm always ready to listen if you need someone!!