Friend or Unfriend?

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My boyfriend and I broke up a week ago. He offered me friendship, I tried not to accept it because I didn’t want to go back to the start when after all, we became more than that. My first ex boyfriend, before him and I became bestfriends after we broke up and that made my recent ex feel jealous, and I don’t want it to happen again. I was never awkward with anyone before, so I know that if I accept that friendship, it would be very normal. But then my friends were telling me not to accept it for now because that will only make me suffer since in his case, he’ll not lose me but in my case, i’ve lost him already.

What should I do?

Category: Tags: asked October 20, 2013

2 Answers

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I think you need to just shut out the external noise for a minute, and your history with a completely different person, and your worries about the future, and just consider your situation with this boy right now. Do you want to stay friends? Is there anything holding you back from it? You said yourself, it would probably be perfectly normal. You both seem to want to be friends. To me, it seems like you could continue to be friends. No one wants bad history to repeat itself, but you have to remember that this boy is a completely separate person from your last boyfriend, different views of the world, different thought process, different feelings. I personally think you should give him the benefit of the doubt and just try to be friends. If it doesn't work, like you notice it's hard on him, or maybe it gets hard on you, then you can end the friendship and go your separate ways and appreciate the time you had as friends. This decision isn't permanent. I hope this helps. Good luck, I hope you work it out. :)
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I think you can just accept the friendship because otherwise everything is going to be super awkward between you guys so I would probably accept it. Just make sure that you guys are not doing the same stuff again.