“Friend” issues (it’s really complicated)


Um this will be long and complicated and confusing.. But I really need advice. Please help me 8(

Ok so I met this girl in grade 2 who was mean to me but I always wanted to be her friend and I always wanted to be like her because a boy I had a crush on had a crush on her. (let’s say her name is adrian,my name is melissa, my bffs name is Raine and Nancy is Adrian’s mom and Karen is Raines mom) well up untill grade 5 I was close to her and then she told me she liked a boy i was IN LOVE with, I told her she was backstabbing me and she can have him because he is clearly blind, then I started to like another boy and I didn’t tell her right away untill I said sorry and all was fine and dandy.. The, day, after i told her.

“HEY melissa!”
“Guess what”
“I like Russell..”
I swear at her and walk away
(I am in love with Russell)
(Don’t worry she swears more then me)

After that I run into Raine who is now my best friend because we always have a riot together and we both hate adrian because at this point, I hate adrian.

Over the next month or so I get a pixie cut that I hated and me and adrian get into a series of fights including where she calls me a lesbian, justin bieber, mean and stupid because I got my hair cut. So right back at her i told her nobody likes her and she is fugly (I didn’t know what those things ment). After that we get over it i never like her and I make better friends like Raine, kg,Fk,and Madeline :)

That is not where it ends

I was accused of “stealing” all of Adrian’s friends because they don’t like her but in her eyes everyone loves her. But I never really let that bother me.

Then it’s is (my current grade) grade 6! When all heck brakes loose and adrian turns crazier than a kardashian in a mental institution. She lies to her mom and says I’m bullying her and I bother her and we always fight… Ahem. What? We stopped TALKING when she ran to the left side of stupid and back. The night this all happened was a Friday in April:

Raine calls me

Me:”hey ya”
M:what’s up
R:Adrian’s crazy
M: what else is new
R: no really she’s been spreading rumours about you
M: what?
R: she told her mom you bother her and you guys fight and her mom told my mom and my mom asked me if we fight with her
M:she is so stupid
R: I know

Flash back
Adrian’s sister tells Raines sister everything about me (even lies) and Raines sister tells Karen

Now whenever I bring it up with adrian she cries?
What I need help with is how to stop being friends with adrian without her sister finding out and eventually having Karen find out? I don’t want Karen to think Im mean or anything that I’m not!

Category: Tags: asked May 16, 2014

2 Answers

So its kinda hard to follow. Maybe what you could do is talk to adrians mom and your mom about the lies Adrian are spreading. Its best to talk to parents first. Sometimes its hard but somehow when mom and dad get involved it works out for the best also talk to ypur teacher and school principa. Adrian is bullying you and teachers need to know. If adrien keeps bullying you and you already told adults tell them again and insist on something being done. I hope this helps.
I agree with Hope. Its just girl drama that everyone goes through. If she starts to repeatedly bully you (call you nasty names, push you, etc.) then you should take action. Just ignore her; don't talk to her. It would just make matters worse if you sink to her level. Kill her with kindness and she would have nothing to complain to her mom about.