First relationship, unsure about breaking up.

I’ve been with my boyfriend, lets call him Arias, for about two years now. We met in culinary school. We come from different backgrounds, different lifestyles and our age difference is 12 years. In his lifestyle, girls and guys arent really just friends and if a girl and a guy are talking, something more is going on. Its where ex’s are ex’s, never friends.
I believe guys and girls can be just friends and ex’s can become friends (or so I think since Arias is my first boyfriend and relationship.)
We both have had two arguments that we are different, and have changed on each other (about what we want as the future, etc) and somewhat said that the next argument we may just have to break-up. Ive never been heartbroken and I cant imagine him not being somewhere in my life. I wish that, if it ended up us breaking up, that we could atleast keep in touch, but thats hard to see happening.. I also dont handle change and change of routine well…
I just need some kind of advice or something…
I honestly dont know how to deal with even the thought of possibly never seeing him again if we broke up, but obviously we arent meant for each other…

Category: Dating & Relationships Tags: boyfriend break up relationship unsure asked November 7, 2013

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ePotato

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This is just my opinion but I have never seen any evidence to sway my opinion in another direction. Guys and girls can't genuinely be just friends, one or the other or both is secretly hoping for more whether it be a relationship or a fling. If you think I'm wrong do this simple test, ask every single friend of the opposite sex and in completely serious manner if they would like to have sex and see how many say no way we are friends. Ex's are ex's unless you have a child with that person that ties you to them in which case you need to make the best of it, but if that person is only an ex there is a reason they aren't in your life and if it's enough of an issue to cause problems with the person you care about who is not an ex you need to make sacrifices sometimes. It doesn't seem like jealousy on his part it just seems like he wants you to eliminate any possibility of temptation even though you don't see it that way it would give him piece of mind. Now if he isn't willing to make a change of something that bothers you then I would say its selfishness.

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Lifeainteasy

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It's tough to advise for this. If you truly can't see yourself staying with him then you guys need to break up.

Although it is hard to think about not having him in your life, it is something you should be able to get over eventually.

You were fine before you met him,and you'll be fine after

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MemorableFriend

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