I felt strange toward my bf. we’ve been together for 2 years. This strange feeling started when i caught him once deleting his message from fb and texts from other girls. I traced one of them but it’s nothing flirty just being friendly. i talked to him all about this and he said he deleted it because it is unimportant and causes his phone to log. and after that i didn’t bring this up anymore. and now i feel so unstable. It is so unhealthy for me him deleting messages, it’s like keeping secrets. now, i began doing it also, whenever a guy chats with me in facebook i replied and deleted it afterwards.
This strange feelings comes with my guilty feeling for doing same things like him and my unstable feeling for him. I don’t know how to start over. I’m nowhere. please help.
You don't have evidence that your boyfriend is cheating (Great news!!!) because you traced the message. But your bad feelings are inward. You can find that all the traced messages aren't leading to anything inappropriate, but you'd still worry, right?Talk to him. Tell him what's going on with your feelings and how it affects you.
I traced only the ending of the message. not the whole. yes, inward. But it still uneasy for me because i know he's good at hiding something. Maybe he's acting silly whenever i'm not around. Sometimes these doubts make me want to leave the relationship because it's making me crazy!
Paranoia, the gift that keeps giving. You can make yourself sick worrying about things that aren't really relevant. If he has never done anything to break your trust, you shouldn't just assume the worst. If you are really jealous and looking around even the most innocent thing may seem suspicious to you.