Father raped my sister, whole lot of questions.

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My dad repeatedly raped my sister when she and I (male by the way, probably why I wasn’t raped) were growing up. My parents had divorced and we lived with him. I don’t know why I never at least questioned what was happening. I occasionally saw them lying together in her bed, and hell, when we would play with our stuffed toys she would sometimes have them have sex (I never questioned this, I somehow came to the conclusion that everyone just knew about sex but me?). She had basically told me “where he had touched her on the doll” and I didn’t notice.
After high school there was a blowout when she wore a slightly low cut shirt to a restaurant and my dad noticed the waiter occasionally glancing at her. I stood up to him when he kicked her out of the house because of that (I didn’t understand why he felt that was an appropriate reaction/punishment), and was promptly called a “bitch” and kicked out as well. We went to live with our mother, but after a while my sister voluntarily went back to live/work for him (!?!). Another blow up resulted in her moving to live with our grandmother, but my sister would still go back to him.
It was only two years into college that she finally told me about what had happened all along. I talked to her about it (more importantly I listened to her… I think that was more important…), and helped her open up to our mother and grandmother about it. Somehow though, she came to the conclusion that she “forgave” him, though my mother didn’t, and my grandmother (his mother) apparently talked to him and didn’t disown him or anything… I’ve never forgiven him, I haven’t talked to him since I found out (2 or 3 years now?), and regularly fantasize about beating the living shit out of him, permanently crippling him (He always told us he would rather us pull the plug on him if it came to that. I would pay to let him live in suffering), and cutting off his testicles (fucking animal).
At least we got our sister to go to Mexico with my mother’s family, and she has even started up her own styling salon :) (so proud of her). But she still talks to our father, and asks him for financial support on occasion… (btw she has told me that he no longer touches her, at least).
We haven’t even looked into whether we could send him to jail because my sister still loved him, and I don’t think she wanted to admit what happened publicly (It took her forever just to tell me). Apparently though, he believes that if a certain amount of time has passed after the crime, then he is untouchable by the law, and repeatedly threatened my sister (don’t know how) not to tell anyone until that time had passed (which by now it has, but I doubt his understanding of the law on this?).
As for me, I (26yo) still live with my mom and step dad. I can’t hold a job, have seen counselors and psychiatrists for depression (yet here I still am), and have flunked out of two colleges (the debts payments are being covered by my grandmother, who made my father help pay for them. I don’t like “owing” him, but I can’t pay for this myself, either.) I also worry because my masturbation fodder was always about anime girls (which typically appear to be really young). I would never touch a little girl in real life (I’ll kill myself first), but if it was fictional I figured it was okay. Until I learned about my father, that is, and now I’m scared I might turn out like him. However, it’s hard not to masturbate. I’ve never had a girlfriend, though I’ve always wanted one (or shit, just someone to hold me for once in my fucking life).
I know I’m starting to sound selfish, but the thing is I don’t have anyone to talk to about this. It’s not like I can go around telling people about what happened to my sister (to anyone who knows her/could figure out who she is). My grandmother still loves her son, and my mother herself had been raped in childhood, I can’t bring myself to remind her of stuff that undoubtedly hurts her beyond belief.
The thing is, this whole ordeal hurts me too. It hurts me to think someone I cared about was being molested in the very place I lived, and I managed to do nothing about it. It hurts me to remember my dad calling me a bitch as he kicked me out of the place I had lived in for 11 years. It hurts me to think these horrible, violent thoughts about him. It hurts me to think I might turn out like him. It hurts me to not understand why she still goes back to him, to wonder if she is incapable of leaving him. It hurts me to feel so damn lonely and depressed. It hurts me to think that my childhood was so much more fucked up than I could have guessed (I constantly have moments where seeing things in this new light completely changes my past, i.e. the low cut shirt thing.) It hurts me to not have anyone to talk to about it. It hurts me to see myself incapable of keeping a job and flunk twice out of college, what am I going to do when my mom can’t take care of me anymore, roll over and die? It hurts me that everyday the only thing I can be bothered to do is wake up, walk over to my computer, and hide on the internet until the day passes away and I can return to sleep. It hurts me to know that the closest women in my life were used and hurt so pathetically, and that the perpetrator got away scot-free each time. I’m tired. I’m so tired.

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-I live in Texas in the U.S. what legal routes could we take if we were to try to convict my father? FWIW the rape was repeated over the course of about 15-8 years ago (she can’t seem to remember distinctly when it started). What if she might not want to confront him? What if he finds someone else to use?
-What should I do about my sister and the fact that she still interacts with my father. She claims she has forgiven him, but it was far too quick to have been normal. She is insistent on christian forgiveness, and maybe it is the only way she can handle the situation, but I need to get her away from him, don’t I?
-Am I going to turn out like him?
-When am I going to stop dreaming about killing him?
-Should I confront him?
-He continues to attend family reunions at my grandmother’s house, and my grandmother is okay with that. I haven’t been able to visit my cousins and uncles/aunts because I can’t imagine being around him. Should I just go, or should I tell my grandmother to finally tell him to leave?
-Why can’t I hold a job, or pursue my studies in things I actually like?
-How do you escape internet addiction? masturbation addiction? self imposed solitary confinement?
-Who in my life should I be able to talk to about these things if not my close family?
-Was I subconsciously blocking out what was happening when I was younger because I didn’t want to deal with the situation, or was I really too young to have been able to tell? Was I complicit in what he did?
-Is she going to be okay like this? What is her life going to be like now that she is dating (and having protected sex) in her new life in Mexico? Is the fact that she has invested her energy into a career a good enough sign that she will be fine (from the point of view of this situation)?

Category: Tags: asked August 28, 2013

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First, I'll just say it was heartbreaking reading what you had to say. I feel like you may have a lot of guilt and fears brought on by the past you described, and both of those are extremely difficult emotions to deal with, when they get as powerful as they must be for you. The anger, self isolation &/or escape behaviours you describe sound like coping strategies brought on by depression and high stress. Please don't let what are really just further symptoms brought on by your pain add to the feelings of guilt or worthlessness you may already have. You have enough on your plate to deal with already! Counseling is probably the best option available, as long as you've found the right counselor for you. Beyond that, I'll just list a few things I personally think might help. Please feel free to disregard any parts that aren't of use to you, or ask questions if there's something you want to know more about.

-I live in Texas in the U.S. what legal routes could we take if we were to try to convict my father? FWIW the rape was repeated over the course of about 15-8 years ago (she can’t seem to remember distinctly when it started). What if she might not want to confront him? What if he finds someone else to use?
• Sorry I can't help with this, but there must be some good resources on statutes of limitations in the US. My best suggestion though would be to consult with women's resource centres/shelters in your state. The staff at these places specialize in supporting women, and might be able to point you in the right direction if you just want to know what the *facts* are regarding laws in your state. You don't have to tell them much-- probably just saying that you want to help an important woman in your life who was abused in the past would be enough.

-What should I do about my sister and the fact that she still interacts with my father. She claims she has forgiven him, but it was far too quick to have been normal. She is insistent on christian forgiveness, and maybe it is the only way she can handle the situation, but I need to get her away from him, don’t I?
• I am in total agreement with the persons who state this is up to your sister. If the whole situation is too painful for her to confront, then maybe that isn't the best answer. In cases as sensitive as this, the only time you should think about encouraging her to bring legal action is if it is clear to you that she is suffering or it is holding her back in life to *not* do anything about it. Her case seems to be the opposite. She is moving on with her life, from what you described.

-Am I going to turn out like him?
• I'm only going by what you typed but based on how visceral your response has been to all of this, and how angry you are about what happened, I highly doubt you would do the same thing. Rather, I get the impression your heart is in the right place. You want to be your sister's protector (which is healthy and natural), but you found out too late to be able to protect her physically (and so that turned into a physical revenge impulse). You just need a way to deal with the fallout, for your own sake, and for your sister's sake, become a protector of her emotional well being.

Regarding the young anime girls, are you talking "loli" type characters specifically or or just teenage girls in general? The thing with hentai or even ordinary anime with a fanservice-y component to it is that the animators are *intentionally* sexualizing and fetishizing young girls and it is meant to bring a reaction in the people who are watching (whether it's a "moe" response or more than that). Obviously not everyone is going to have that reaction, but not everyone who does is going to go on to abuse young girls either. Not even most of them. Perhaps rather than torture yourself by wondering "what if," it might be better to choose *other* material (is there other stuff you like?) to fantasize about when you masturbate. Gradually, your tastes could entirely change as well.

-When am I going to stop dreaming about killing him?
• I think the anger and revenge scenarios probably stem from depression and/or high stress. Deal with these problems and your rage will probably become more manageable. (I know this is WAY easier said than done, but at least it might help to give you something to work towards, in order to hopefully be able to banish these harmful feelings. While it's certainly not good to hold it all in, stewing in your rage also only hurts you and does nothing to him. Better to turn that energy toward making life as fulfilling as possible for yourself and the persons you care for.)

-Should I confront him?
• This is a tough one. I *want* to say no, and that you should keep your distance (but not let him be a barrier to being around people you care about either, as others have said), but this is probably a question a professional should answer. It requires an in-depth investigation of reasons you might want to do so, things you might want/need to say, and so on.

-He continues to attend family reunions at my grandmother’s house, and my grandmother is okay with that. I haven’t been able to visit my cousins and uncles/aunts because I can’t imagine being around him. Should I just go, or should I tell my grandmother to finally tell him to leave?
• You might need to build up to this within your counseling sessions first, but I think it's safe to say that you have a right to be around the persons you care for, without having to tiptoe around someone. You do not have to forgive him in order to tolerate being in the same place as him. Notice I say *tolerate* as I certainly would not expect you to enjoy having him around. With practice, hopefully you can just give him the cold shoulder and not look at him or speak to him at all (unless you manage to get to a point where you can speak to him in brief, civil exchanges without stirring anything up, so as not to cause a disruption for your other family members)? The key here is to keep the peace and not upset the persons you care about. But if that's too much, they can surely make time to see you when he's not around as well. Make it all about you and them (i.e. find a balance); not about him.

-Why can’t I hold a job, or pursue my studies in things I actually like?
• I will go out on a limb and suggest you look into symptoms of extremely high stress. I recently discovered for myself that some of the worst symptoms I've been attributing to my depression (which make it difficult to be work competently even though I normally consider myself a highly intelligent and highly valuable worker) are directly related to extreme *stress*. If this fits your situation, targeted techniques for stress reduction might help. (mindfulness meditation has probably been the most effective for me, for example, but everyone's different.)

-How do you escape internet addiction? masturbation addiction? self imposed solitary confinement?
• imo these are probably also symptoms of your depression/stress (like anger). Your counselor probably has a better perspective on all of this though.

-Who in my life should I be able to talk to about these things if not my close family?
• Definitely your counselor.

-Was I subconsciously blocking out what was happening when I was younger because I didn’t want to deal with the situation, or was I really too young to have been able to tell? Was I complicit in what he did?
• I don't know if anything was going on subconsciously, but you were probably very young and trusting. What I can say, however, is that if you genuinely didn't notice it on a *conscious* level, then you genuinely have nothing to blame yourself for. You did not "choose" yourself or your father over your sister's well being or anything like that. Even if you did notice something you might have been very confused, and maybe you were simply too innocent to know what should be done. In a way, you were vulnerable too. Your trust was also abused.

-Is she going to be okay like this? What is her life going to be like now that she is dating (and having protected sex) in her new life in Mexico? Is the fact that she has invested her energy into a career a good enough sign that she will be fine (from the point of view of this situation)?
• Unless you have a specific reason to believe otherwise, your sister probably knows what's best for herself. Listening and being supportive and nonjudgmental is probably the best thing you can do for her. Dealing with your portion of the turmoil that your father brought into your lives will probably also help you deal with her situation better, as well as help you to move on with your life.
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- I'm sorry, I can't help with the legal thing since I don't even live in America. You should look into it yoruself. A simple Google of Texas sexual assault laws may help, and it would be worth looking up the Statue Of Limitations because as you said, if a certain amount of time does pass, he can't be charged unfortunate. If she doesn't want to confront him, then she doesn't want to, and she doesn't have to. I know it's in your best interest to punish him, but if it's at the expense of your sisters emotional wellbeing when she's doing so well right now and your relationship with her, is it worth it?
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- You know, you may think that she forgave him too fast, but in her mind, she doesn't think that. If what she feels is making her truly okay, then that's what you need to be okay with as well. You don't have to personally forgive him, but you need to respect that she has. Whatever you do in this situation, you HAVE to think of your sister before anyone else. Before you, before your Dad, anyone. If he isn't hurting her anymore, and she truly has forgiven him, then getting her away from him may not be needed.
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- No, certainly not, you will not turn out like him. You have just as much free will to NOT sexually assault people as he DID. It was a choice that he made, over and over. You are not him. You are you.
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- It may be a good idea to get some counseling because holding onto this kind of rage is only hurting you. It's totally okay to be angry, and to hate him, I'm not suggestion that you shouldn't, but this kind of rage isn't healthy. The dreams, literal, or just daydreams, won't go away on their own, not until you deal with the underlying problem, and that's the rage.
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- I don't know the answer to whether or not you should confront him. This is something you'll have to decide for yourself. You need to think about it logically though. Is it going to put you in danger? Are you going to get violent? Is it going to hurt your sister? Is any good going to come out of it? Ask yourself a million questions before you decide.
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- I think you need to accept that your family has forgiven him, and that he is probably going to be around, but don't give up on going to family reunions just because of him. While he's there, you don't even have to acknowledge him. Just keep your distance. Not going to these things is only hurting you, not him, it's not doing anything to him. Maybe you should try to go to one when he is there, and go in with a positive mindset, and if you truly can't handle him being there, just leave. Again, I recommend this counseling.
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-Why can’t I hold a job, or pursue my studies in things I actually like? - I don't know why you are having trouble in work and school. You said that you wake up, sit on your computer, then sleep, and that's all you can/want to do. You may have some kind of depression or some kind of mild PTSD because of how you reacted to the situation with your dad, or it could be completely unrelated. Now, I'm really recommending the counseling because dark holes are extremely hard to get out of on your own.
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- Addiction is tricky, but maybe you could start with just with being aware of how much time you spend on the addiction, like how much time on the computer, of how many times you masturbate, and then start to slowly lower than number, and each time, replace it with something health, like writing, drawing, playing or listening to music, walking, working out etc. There are a million things. It would be a slow process, don't expect it to work in a week, it could take a few months.
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-Who in my life should I be able to talk to about these things if not my close family? - You should talk to a counselor about all of these feelings. It's not healthy to keep it bottled up. I'm really glad you let it all out here today, it's a good step.
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- It's tricky to say whether or not you knew what was going on, but either way, it's not your fault. It's not your fault you didn't do something. It's your Dad's fault, and only his. You aren't responsible for his actions, you had no control over them.
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- I think your sister is okay. From what you've told us, she has forgiven your Dad, she has a successful career, and a healthy relationship. She sounds alright. There's no way to truly know how she is though just from these things, so you should ask her how she is. It's really not that complicated. Talk to her.
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I hope this helps.
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I think you should draw a line between what you are responsible of, and what is your sister's responsibility. She has the one that will have to live with a public trial, she is the one that has the right to decide what to do about your father. If she decides to punish him. you will help her then, but in the meantime I suggest you just leave your father out of your life, and live your own life. You also need to draw a line between what his responsibility is, and yours. What happened is only _his_ fault, you were a kid, you were not the adult there. There are groups that support victims of abuse and their families, you could start by looking them up and going to them, it will help you with your isolation too, and you can get an idea of how to proceed towards pulling yourself out of your situation by going through them, and of course counseling and therapy if you can afford it. Books like "Toxic parents", "Boundaries", can help you get an idea of how to make light in this bundle of emotions and thoughts that torment you every day too.
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Hey. I saw what you wrote. I'm very sorry about what happened, I don't think anyone deserves to go through that. But I will help you.I don't even live in America, so I can't help with the court situation. Try looking online for that.I think you should persuade your sister to confront him. It is her personal choice, but you're her brother, and he can't get away with this, whether or not he still touches her.Talk to your sister. Seriously. Knock some sense into her. I mean, it's not like it happened once. She doesn't have to hate him forever, but I don't think it's healthy for her to interact with him. If she forgave him too quick, it could just be that she doesn't like grudges, but I think he really apologized to her. Why else would someone forgive someone for raping them that fast? It's good she doesn't hold any anger. Try to get her away from him.You will not turn out like him. I can assure you that. You know enough to know what he did was wrong. You won't.I think you dream about killing him because you have a lot of anger towards him. I think you should ease up. Don;t be angry at the world. Forgive him, but don't forgive him (You know what I mean?) You don't have to have a relationship or talk. But it's unhealthy to bottle up a lot of anger.Yes. Don't do it quick and restlessly. Do it slow and smooth. Don't bring up the topic at first. When you see him, greet him. (You're allowed to act like you're still pissed, but not too much, since it's his house) Eventually bring the topic up. If he starts to get angry, calmly explain you just want to talk about it, and you don't mean harm. I think it's best to give him a call first (Don't mention the confrontation or anything about it on the phone) and then go, so you'll at least know you'll be welcomed. Tell him how you feel, why you want to talk to him, etc.You have to understand that even though what he did was horrid, that's her son. She would eventually forgive him. You can't really kick him out. I recommend confronting him first, so it won't be awkward, and that way people won't question themselves when you go. (Why aren't they talking, etc.) You're gonna end up facing him at some point in your life.You have depression, which actually isn't uncommon. This question is a bit hard to answer. I think you feel bad about yourself. But mostly, it seems that you're ashamed. Ashamed for having him as a father, but mostly ashamed that you didn't know what was happening to her when she was younger and that you couldn't stop her. Don't feel bad. Your sister has even gotten over it. Feeling sad won't get you anywhere. Don't be scared to be happy.A LOT of people are addicted to the internet. Including me. Being on the internet isn't horrible. Try getting into something. Like exercise. Reading. Playing an instrument. Taking out your sadness while playing an instrument is I think one of the best ways to handle depression. For the masturbation: A lot of people masturbate. The reason you don't have a girlfriend is because you lock yourself inside your house. I promise, once you get out there, you'll be happy. Being in public and social interaction isn't as scary as it seems. You're so used to being holed up it's your comfort zone. "Life starts when you exit your comfort zone." Get out there. Force yourself to take a walk. You should get an animal. They are great at treating depression. If you are going to get an animal, get a dog, since they need regular walks which will force you to go outside.You see a counselor and psychiatrist. Aren't they helping? Tell them how you feel. Don't be scared to open up. The only thing you should worry about is WHO you open up to.That's a question you have to ask yourself. It's illegal to be a bystander, but you were young, so don't worry. Either way, you were very young! Even if you knew, there was a chance you could of been too scared to help.Yes! She will absolutely be fine! She has gotten over it. She has started a career and met someone. And so should you. Stop worrying about her. She has finally come to terms with what happened. She is happy. The only person you have to worry about is you.I know you can get through this. Do what I said and I promise you will get better. Stop being angry at the world. Be positive. Your sister is okay. That's what matters most, since she was the victim. Good luck!
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I understand what your sister is going through, but I do not wish to talk about it publicly, If you want some insight on how she may be thinking please message me and I will tell you everything I can to help you understand what she is really going through in her mind...I just...I have trouble talking about it still.
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This is one of the most gut wrenching stories I have ever heard. I don't really know what to say that others haven't said before me. It sounds to me like you are suffering from a pretty severe depression and I hope that you are able to get some help for that.As far as your question about the statute of limitation, I might be able to help. I am an attorney but I am not very familiar with Texas law, so I can only give a general answer. As I understand it, the statute of limitation on a sexual offense against a minor is ten years after the child turns 18.I understand that your sister is reluctant to press charges against your dad. It is common for sexually abused children to still try to win the acceptance and love of the parent that abused them. Maybe you should try to explain to her that forgiving your father doesn't mean that she needs to stay in contact with him or protect him in any way. He committed a crime (one of the worst crimes imaginable) and he should have to pay for it.
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I live with almost the same story every day except for some small details. I am female, my dad did go to jail, and I never talked to her about it.My dad, too, raped my sister for most of my young life. My parents were divorced and we went to his house on the weekends. I actually did find out what was happening but when I first noticed something strange I was only 8 years old and she was 10. Apparently that's the first time he actually raped her but he was molesting her for a couple years before that.My sister always seemed very close to my dad and he too would get jealous when she started growing up and being interested in other boys or other boys interested in her. I think this is what confused me because she really didnt seem that miserable. She was spoiled, she acted happy, and her and my dad almost seemed like they were both in on it and hiding it. My dad did go to jail but only for less than a year! She told the police because her boyfriend forced her to and he went to prison but got out on good behavior. This seems crazy short for raping a young girl for 8 years straight. He was arrested when I was 14 and she was 16.My mom seemed like she forgave him almost instantly. She said he must have had a problem and "the man she married" wouldnt do anything like that.I know my sister really does need to talk to someone about what happened, and someone that would understand her. The problem is the things I already know and heard during my childhood really haunt me. I remember things he said and did. He even would build doors with locks to separate my brother and I in one half of the house while they were in the other. I'm too scared to talk to her because I dont think I can handle the nightmares and sickness that would come with the details. It's almost unbearable as it is. How can I get myself to just let her get it out?It took me a long time but I did forgive my dad. I even talk to him now and found out that I am a lot like him. Him and my brother and I are all Asperger's and he seems to really understand me. I hate him but I do want a normal life where I can communicate freely with my entire family. My mom is in denial, my sister is a sexaholic/alcoholic/very depressed and refuses to seek help. My brother is depressed and angry and doing the self imposed solitary confinement that you have described.I also have very odd sexual interests including a lot of things that are inappropriate. I even did think about kids before but I know I would never do anything. And also it doesnt make me excited, it makes me very angry to think about this stuff but for some reason the anger has turned into a turn on? This was really scary for me because My brother and I both felt like you did like maybe we would turn into pedophiles somehow.I was the only one besides my sister and dad who knew what was going on. But I never did anything. I feel terrible like you like I somehow just let it happen but I guess I just wasnt 100% sure. I told my brother once and he immediately told my dad who harshly scolded me that that kind of thinking was nasty and "how dare I accuse him of something so terrible" yet it was all true.So answers to your questions...I live in Texas in the U.S. what legal routes could we take if we were to try to convict my father? FWIW the rape was repeated over the course of about 15-8 years ago (she can’t seem to remember distinctly when it started). What if she might not want to confront him? What if he finds someone else to use?I dont know about Texas but like I said, the system here in Missouri must be really flowed to let my dad go so easily. Maybe it would just cause you stress and upset you that they took it so lightly. On the other hand if you think he really could and would endanger another child I would do whatever I could do stop it. -What should I do about my sister and the fact that she still interacts with my father. She claims she has forgiven him, but it was far too quick to have been normal. She is insistent on christian forgiveness, and maybe it is the only way she can handle the situation, but I need to get her away from him, don’t I?My sister has talked to my dad a couple times since then and this is something I'm suppressing too I guess. She told me he asked her if she loves him (maybe in a sexual way not a normal way) and she said no. When she told me this she said he got very sad and she seemed so disappointed to have hurt him. What the hell? I feel scared that because she grew up dealing with that maybe she'll forever have some odd attachment to him and if he really said that then idk if he has changed. I thought my sister needed to forgive him but I wish I would have tried to keep them from talking to. However, now that she is an adult you have to let her decide what she wants. -Am I going to turn out like him? I had this same fear, but the only one who can control that is you. If you ever end up in an odd situation hopefully you can ignore sexual feelings and remember that gut wrenching overwhelming anger you have for that situation. -When am I going to stop dreaming about killing him? Might never stop. This stuff haunts me every day and its been ten years since it stopped. -Should I confront him? It really does help to say what you need to say. I had a therapy session every day for a couple weeks talking to my dad's counselor before I felt comfortable confronting him when I was 18. Then I confronted him there in the room with his counselor. Might be safe to do it that way. It really helped me -He continues to attend family reunions at my grandmother’s house, and my grandmother is okay with that. I haven’t been able to visit my cousins and uncles/aunts because I can’t imagine being around him. Should I just go, or should I tell my grandmother to finally tell him to leave? That's messed up. My dad wouldnt dare show his face at our reunions. Surprised the shame hasnt got to him -Why can’t I hold a job, or pursue my studies in things I actually like? -How do you escape internet addiction? masturbation addiction? self imposed solitary confinement? -Who in my life should I be able to talk to about these things if not my close family? Blahtherapy helps too! -Was I subconsciously blocking out what was happening when I was younger because I didn’t want to deal with the situation, or was I really too young to have been able to tell? Was I complicit in what he did? -Is she going to be okay like this? What is her life going to be like now that she is dating (and having protected sex) in her new life in Mexico? Is the fact that she has invested her energy into a career a good enough sign that she will be fine (from the point of view of this situation)? Your sister sounds a lot better off than mine. So thank God if she really has forgiven him and is ok. I would love for my sister to just be happy and get past her past. God help her.
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