Explanation or advice?


I just broke up with my girlfriend that I’ve had for a year. I’ve was madly in love with her, and did the best I could, but it ended the same way it has with every girl that I’ve ever liked or had an interesting in. “You’re the most amazing person I’ve ever met and I don’t know what I would do without you in my life, but I just don’t feel for you that way”. My ex said she has been convincing herself that she has loved me for months, but she just wants me as a friend. My entire life I have had no romantic, flirtatious, or sexual instinct at all. Whenever I have tried acting like I did, I just hated it and it didn’t feel right, and it comes off so obviously fake. I watch so many videos and read so many books about how to flirt, but I hate how fake it feels and its so mentally exhausting, I just don’t have that instinct. Is there a reason or explanation for this? What would you do if you were me?

Category: Tags: asked July 26, 2015

1 Answer

I try to avoid labels but I do know your not alone with those feelings.
People are so much more than labesl and you should be loved for who you are. I think when you fully accept yourself and embrace your true feelings and nature that you will feel more comfortable and hopefully find someone who loves you for who you are.
Not being romantic or having a flirtatious, sexual instinct doesnt mean you won't find that. You shouldn't have to fake it and the right person wouldn't want you to.
Try not to overthink it although I know thats easier than done but follow your heart and do only what feels comfortable to you, because you deserve to be loved for who you are.