Ex-Boyfriend Asking to Be Friends. What do I do?

Whatever you choose to do, it would be absolutely great to keep your current boyfriend up to date, on all of your interactions with this ex.

In some cases, ex's can be friends. But if you've got a current boyfriend, and you want to protect your current relationship, then boundaries must ALWAYS be kept in place between you and your ex.

That means zero tolerance of flirtation. Not even playful flirting.

It would be best for you to talk about topics concerning deep feelings and intimate issues with your CURRENT boyfriend. Never with the ex.

And absolutely no secrets. Secrets are bad. Even when we don't mean for them to harm anyone.

Good luck, alright?

I think if he's been such a significant part of your life, it's not weird to want to talk to him or meet up with him at all. The only issue is that it's very easy for feelings to return when trying to build a friendship with an ex, and it can take a lot of self control and commitment. I think asking your current boyfriend for advice was a good idea as it avoids any secrets and future arguments. If you really want to, talk to him, I just advise you to be wary. Talking to ex's can sometimes lead into a cycle of hurt etc when they meant so much in the past. If you do choose to talk to him/meet him to catch up, I also advise that you talk to a friend who knows him about it, and tell your current boyfriend to make sure the situation is okay, however it is your life and you can do what you want. I hope this helps :)

If he hasn't done anything bad, then why the hell not, friends are for life, although it can be awkward if their different gender, but it will pass, just don't stress too much and make sure stuff don't get ugly, just stay away from that

I had the exact same relationship with a guy. he was a jerk and was very mentally abusive. I also have an amazing boyfriend. and I haven't talked to him for about 8 months now and I have never felt better. I do understand why you still want to talk to him though, its hard to get rid of something that was a big part of your life. But I would listen to your boyfriend. most of the time guys know what theyre talking about with other guys since they see them with their guard down instead of you just seeing him when he's with you. but you really don't need the extra drama and stress he may bring. life's too short for that. Hope this helps :*

There's a lot of things you have to look out for when you're approached with this situation. 1. I think it's fine to be friends with an ex only if you both know there's only friendship and nothing else. Sometimes when you go back being friends with an ex especially when its been so long he could have build up feelings for you again and that could ruin your current relationship. If you know forsure he doesn't like you that way anymore then why not? I personally wish i was still friends with one of my ex but if he chose not to talk to me then i can't force it right? 2. Make sure your bf is absolutely fine with this. Letting him know about the email is a great start because you're not hiding anything. If he understands and trust you then its okay to start little by little but make sure to update your bf on whats happening just so you can reassure him that there's nothing to hide and it saves you from being blackmailed if anything happens. Anyways if your ex ever makes you feel upset about yourself or he verbally abuse you again it's okay to just let him go and not create this friendship. You deserve to be happy!