Ex Advice Anyone?

My ex broke up with me almost 3 months ago and I really want to get him back because I love him so much. To keep the story short, he’s depressed and not very social among others with not many friends. He has issues with family and told me that he couldn’t deal with anything anymore and that he didn’t want to do it but he had to. I didn’t talk to him for a month and finally went up to him after that time. Currently he says “hi” and smiles at me whenever he sees me. Any advice on what I should do now? Where do you think I stand? And the funny thing is that I have a study hall next semester that is the same class as his (he doesn’t know yet though). Any opinions or advice? I really appreciate it, thank you! (P.S. I have done lots of research on what I should do but I just need someone else’s insight and ideas on what to do. Has anyone else been in this situation or knows someone in this situation? I have worked on myself to stay confident and have a good mindset. I am always happy when I’m around him and not sad. ~Keep the Faith~)

Category: Dating & Relationships Tags: boyfriend break up ex ex boyfriend getting back together love relationship relationships asked January 25, 2014

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keepthefaith

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Break ups are brutal! You have my sympathy, truly.I'd be careful though in focusing on getting him back, because clearly he has some issues that he's trying to deal with. It may be that his depression makes him feel that he's unworthy of your love, or means he's unable to cope at the moment. We can't know for certain why he broke up with you.Hope this helps!However, no matter what his problems are you can't 'fix' them, and changing yourself to try and be what you think he needs does you a terrible disservice.You are a strong, sensitive and remarkable person. You're doing really well to be focusing on staying confident and having a good mindset. Being comfortable and happy with yourself is best - it will attract the interest of people who will suit you best, and you'll be happier in the meantime as well.

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Scone

If you know the reason why he broke up with your, that could help you possibly get back together. Since he has emotional issues, he may not have a 'solid' reason to break up. He may of thought you were better off without him or something similar to that. Of course, he may also may have actually have a solid reason, whether that be falling out of love, or wanting to be single (not alone, there's a difference). It's best to just talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel and what you want, and listen to how he feels and what he wants. If you work out that you want to try your relationship again, that's great. If he doesn't want you back, there's nothing you can do and dwelling on that will only be painful for you. Also, just note that him smiling and being friendly doesn't necessarily mean that he still wants you, he can just be being polite. Not all relationships have to end on bad terms. I hope this helps. Good luck. x.

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Jess

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Respect his wishes and give him some space. You can still be friendly but don't expect more from him at this time.

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