Emotions controlling my life, help?

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The smallest thing can set me off into a fit of rage or depression. I wanna keep it all to myself but it’s so hard! It’s like a balloon with too much air getting ready to pop! I hate it! Borderline Personality Disorder controls my life… when do i get to take the wheel again?

asked August 8, 2013

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It seems like you have numerous stressors in your life and as a result of this snowball effect even the little things will tick you off. I would just say to talk about it, there's nothing more therapeutic then being able to talk to someone about your problems no matter how big or small. A few weeks ago I was having a horrible day of just a bunch of little things going completely wrong for me where I almost broke down and cried at the end of the day but I talked to someone about it and realized how silly I was being and got over it. Just by talking to people on here can help a lot. Anyway, I wish you all the best, have a good one.
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Hey, if you're in your teen years this is very common, for most people anyway, If you are over 18 don't stress. When we bottle things up we are in fact like a balloon, we keep filling up until we are ready to explode.. and when we are at the brink it seems the smallest things send us into a sprial of emotion.My advice: Don't bottle it all up! Oprn up to someone, release some of that hot air bubbling up inside you! Reach out to family, friends, or vent on this site! Also you may find councillers can be helpful. Even writting a joural can help get some of that out of your head, and in turn, you won't get as stressed out over small things.
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I suffer from BPD as well, and it seems hopeless. But it's not. Have you heard of a therapy called DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy)? Try DBTselfhelp.com to learn some skills. Try to change the way you perceive events in your mind. Stop saying things like "always and never" and "have to" "should/shouldn't." Instead say, a lot of the time, or rarely, "it would be good of me to do this" instead of "i have/should to do this." "I'd prefer I/you didn't do that" instead of "I/you shouldn't do that. The most important thing to me in the beginning of recovery that I learned is that NO EMOTION LASTS FOREVER. Especially with BPD. They come and go very quickly and in the moment they feel like they'll never end.. but they do! Even happiness ends. Prepare yourself for this. Find ways to let out anger that aren't self destructive (write, art, read, photography, exercise, smash cheap plates, punching bag, yell [if in solitude]). Delay any negative reaction as long as you can, and if you DO act in a harmful or destructive manner, don't beat yourself up. Recovery is a long, long road with steps forward and back, but you are always learning. Read some books about BPD. I suggest "Sometimes I Act Crazy" as it will give you a lot of insight into why you feel/do some of the things you feel and do, and tips and ways to stop maladaptive behaviors. Message me if you need more help. <3