I know that controlling emotions can be really challenging, but it's really important to communicate in relationships especially when it comes to setting boundaries. Your partner may want/need to know why you set a certain boundary. If your partners are getting angry with you for setting boundaries then it's probably best to end the relationship anyways. Just as they need you to talk to them about the boundary you want to set, you need them to take to that boundary and respect you for setting it. It goes both ways. At the very least you need to be able to talk to your partner and compromise on a boundary that works for both of you. If you can't reach a compromise that both of you are content with then the two of you aren't very compatible.
