Does my friend really value my friendship?

Today, my friend and I had a small argument about which way to walk home, her way (5 minutes quicker for her, 15 longer for me) or mine, (15 quicker for me, 5 minutes longer for her). I really needed to get home fast, because of a headache I had due to a medical condition, but she really didn’t want to help me out so that I could take my medication…. In the end I told her that I would just go my way without her so she said “fine but for the rest of the week we’re going my way home…” I didn’t want to argue with her, because she’s really intimidating and can be violent so I just agree… She always hits me for no reason, and makes me feel really small…. What should I do? I don’t want to break off our friendship, because she doesn’t have anybody else, and if I did she might hurt me? Any suggestions?

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Cat

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You obviously care more for your friend feeling lonely than her caring for your health. Friends sacrifices their interest for something more important. You friend hasn't demonstrated this. She should be more accommodating of your medical condition rather than her own self interest. Have you ever considered that maybe because of her attitude why she feels lonely? Do you really want to accommodate someone who has no interest in accommodating others? It takes two to make any relationship work. If she starts to hurt you just because you broke the friendship then report her to someone. She has no right, you are not her property.

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NoblePebble

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I think that if you are feeling FEAR toward this person then this relationship is already not a friendship. A friendship implies that both of you RESPECT and CARE for each other, and see each other as equals. You are obviously a caring girl and I think that you deserve far better from people close to you.

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Heart_is_a_lonely_hunter

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If she makes you feel small and intimidated, and uses violence as a way to enforce that, she isnt being a friend to you at all. Trust me, you will feel better if you distance yourself from her and spend your time with people who are actually good to you.

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Ivy

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I agree with @littlelion :)

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Miza ツ

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