Does anybody know anything about adult children of dysfunctional families?

I am also like this... I am an only child, 36.. And my parents were older and dyfunctional.. (My parents have both passed away now) I think my mum had depression.. And probably was something going on with my dad too, other than that he was violent towards my mother.. I am also and INFP (I think my mother was an INFP).. Finding out what personality type by your MBTI can sometimes help to understand why you do certain things..

I find it extremely hard to cope with life (though I can very well at times).. But you know.. At the moment I don't want to do anything, hardly want to get out of bed..

I went through some bad times with my boyfriend last year and we split up.. And last year I discovered that I might be Demisexual and also that I might have Borderline Personality Disorder (reading about it, I needed to read about it to discover why I was behaving like I was.. I first started looking on the UK mental health charity MIND's website).. So in that way I'm like Whiny Frog.. I have a medical appointment on Tuesday so hopefully can try to talk about what's going on.. Or had been going on... It's quite funny actually that you say that you feel like you want someone to look after you, because sometime early this year, or last year my ex said "You want/need someone to look after you all the time and that's hard work" (I didn't I just wanted someone I could trust and he wasn't trustworthy).. He didn't even want to split up with me at first because he couldn't see how I would cope on my own.. Now it feels like he has totally abandoned me (that is a very BPD thing to say/feel, lol)..

Anyway, enough about me, I'm not sure I'm helping.. This is a chatroom site that I frequent, it has been such a helpful place for me to go to in the past year.. Nearly a year! And I think it would be of great help for you to look through it and see if you identify with any of the PD types.. PD Chat

Hope it is helpful..

"Toxic parents" is an interesting read.

Woah, I've literally just come to that conclusion about myself. I think the only way to heal yourself is through therapy and self-help books. Also, routine is golden when it comes to putting your life back together. As someone who is struggling with the same issue, it's strangely ironic that I'm telling you to do these things when I can't even do them myself. It's always easier to preach though. I noticed one thing you said about wanting to be looked after, that to me sounds like you could have some form of a personality disorder (which aren't as bad as they're made out to be!) It has been suggested by a mental health professional that I have Borderline Personality Disorder and to be honest, having read the symptoms/risks/treatment, I was delighted to finally have figured out what the problem was. Don't be afraid to get a diagnosis, once you figure out what's wrong it's so much easier after that. Best of luck with everything, oodles of love x

I had never considered BPD, and having just researched it, I think you both might be onto something.Thank you so much for replying and giving me some outside perspective. I wish you both the best x