Does anybody else have a problem with saying I love you?

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We don’t really say it much in my family (that’s probably why I have a problem) so it doesn’t cause me issues at home. But I am nervous for when I have my first proper relationship. I feel as though I cannot love someone (and I mean REALLY love them – where I am able to tell them about all my secrets that no one else knows) until I have been going out with them for at least a year.

I think I might freak out if a future partner told me he loved me like 2 months in. How can I talk to future partners about this? I don’t want to make them worried about saying it too early to me.

Category: Tags: asked August 11, 2013

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I definitely know where you're coming from here because I don't like the idea of saying I love you to soon either. It would be a good idea to mention this when you think there's a chance you guys are getting serious or when you know the person a little better. Be honest and let them know that love is a strong word for you, and you don't have to outright say that you can try to make it a little more discreet. It'll probably always be a little bit awkward to bring it up but to me someone who says I love you only a short time into a relationship isn't really thinking it over. Your best bet is to definitely bring it up sooner than later so that they know where you stand and honestly if they're really into you they'll be a bit nervous about saying I love you too soon, but they'll know to be more serious about it and let you initiate it even.