Does age in this case really matter.hmmm…

Recently I have many people i knew or friends that had their sons pass away.Infact 5 in 7 days.
So I just for a change wanted to exploid for a moment,to some one I dont know,and went here to vent.
Unfortunatly though 2 time I was asked my age,when I mentioned whats been havening,and really didnt want anything more than perhaps I am sorry to hear that,and list for a moment.
Nope! neither could simply say just one or two words to show me that they felt just a little sad or sorry,but just wanted my age.
Now perhaps down the track with some conversation,if it got that fare,to have asked me,if they could may be see i didnt get something,or was crying my eyes out ,as some may have done,then may be,just may be Id understand that question.
Any one else agree that the question wasnt really relivent at that time?

As it was, i didnt stay here,but if there was just some sort of feelings shown my way ,i would have.Not that I was planning to stay more than a minute,as all I really wanted was to get it of my shoulders for a moment,give me time to breath.

Category: Depression asked July 25, 2014

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Anonymous

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If you find people asking your age uncomfortable or irrelevant, then tell them so. Say something like "I'd prefer not to state my age" or "I'd rather not say" when they ask. I think it's mainly so that the listener on the other end will have a better idea of what age group you're going through. It gives them a better idea of what kind of advice would help more in this situation, with your age. For example, a 15 year old's thoughts and experiences could possibly be different than a 35 year old's. Although it isn't great to assume, or jump to conclusions, one would usually think that a 15 year old would be going through high school, and would be under more academic stress than the 35 year old, who has probably completed their education and has a job. I don't think the stranger/listener meant any harm, they just wanted to know your age so that they could perhaps give you better advice.

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starfish

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I'm assuming you're taking issue with people asking your age when venting (sorry but your improper grammar and spelling makes it a little difficult to deduce)?

If you didn't want to give your age becuase you feel it was inappropriate or irrelevant then you could have just told the listener that and they would probably have been okay with that. Remember that this is a site where random people volunteer to listen.

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The Giggle Blizzard

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