Does abstinence cause sexual sadism to grow or lessen?

Stop torturing yourself. There is no evidence whatsoever that "sex addiction" and "porn addiction" is even valid. Sex is normal and natural. Abstinence-only education is a harmful practice that needs to go away forever. Sex can be entirely safe between consenting parties when there is comprehensive sex education available.

So I reiterate, stop torturing yourself. You are not bettering yourself by ignoring your natural urges and desires, you are just making yourself miserable.

If you'd like to discuss this further, my inbox is always open at BlahTherapy.com/members/blackholehead

I too am abstaining(or attempting to atleast) .. ive learnt its more of a lifestyle so avoiding any images or thoughts concerning porn should help even more.. To answer your question, as far as i know, yes it does lessen over time. I've read quite a few posts on various websites about it .I admire your willpower. I hope everything works out for you, Stay strong dude!And to the previous answer,, Porn and masturbation may not affect everyone but most definitely affects a lot of people. I have been experimenting with abstinence for the past two years and i can say it from experience. And in many cases guys need to move to more extreme types of porn to "get off" .. which can result in the impairment of having natural sex with a human being among other issues. Abstaining seems to help "reprogram" the mind according to peoples experiences.

Abstinence is hard because your body is used to the feeling, but you are starving yourself from that feeling. The feeling will lessen if you choose different alternatives to feel that way, like exercising or some other activity. If you don't substitute porn with something more healthy, it will be hard

Why abstinence? I can understand in terms of sex with people, but why on masturbation? It's something natural and actually pretty healthy for your body (doctors say this, I'm not making it up). Tbh I completly agree with @blackholehead (Jonathan) , you're torturing yourself and probably making yourself sick. You have to listen to your body. If your body needs it, you should listen to it. And there's nothing wrong with it

So..ive only had 2 boyfriends, and im 35 (as of today in fact). the first i was 18 he was 15 we were together for 6 years, then the next for 4..then i started to get back w/ my first love...and he committed suicide...i havent had sex since him..10 years now. and now im so anxious about it..im afraid of that and ive lost sooo many friends to HIV, im petrified....as pedantic as i can say it: its like getin in a motorcycle wreck...you HAVE to get back on a bike...just ONCE...just to not be afraid of them forever...dont go as loong as i have

I applaud you for making it past 3 months. All I know is that eventually you will break through, it takes long for some people to make that breakthrough. I don't think abstinence from sex and masturbating will make you sick unless you add the placebo effect. The problem with masturbation is that there's no large group of people who are abstaining to show another side of it. For example if everyone smoked, lung cancer would just be a fact of life (Doctors said smoking was healthy). To be honest, yes it is torture to abstain completely but it's worth it because that discipline will carry you a long way more than temporary relief/pleasure. So keep fighting!