Do you think its a good idea to brake up with my boyfriend, and how?


Okay so 2 months ago I met a boy who is 5 years older than me. Since he told me he had a daughter and I briefly met her I became quite distance to him. And there’s lots else going on in my life i.e deadlines for college, keeping up with family communication, helping pay bills for my house share, keeping up relationships with my peers as I am in a new place so that’s an important focus.
But anyway, he keeps talking me to stay over his the night and I have to put aside my responsibilities to do that sometimes. But sometimes it feels like what he’s most interested in is having me sleep in his bed. Because he ends up taking control and persuading me to have sex i.e by trying to turn me on. But there has been times when I have just gone along with it when I’d rather I hadn’t. Sex seems really important to him and less to me. Like I would prefer to be in his company (perhaps that’s because I spend a lot of time on my own so I have got used to owning my own space). The sex thing has made me feel like I want to avoid seeing him, that it will be an emotional strain when I do.
There are good things about him too… i.e his experience, his relaxed personality, his business, his shared views on seeking work and the kinds of people… but I am going off of him I believe. Seems like more of a short lived thing…
What does anyone think about this? I would like to work on a better relationship but its too much like hard work to get him to change to suit my needs better… Oh and can anyone till me if writing a letter to tell him I want to brake it off is a good solution? I would like to tell him that I have enjoyed a nice friendship with him that I would be happy to continue also …..
Please help me with this, anyone. :)

asked November 27, 2014

1 Answer

I think it would be a good idea to talk to him face to face it is the best thing to do. You have to do what your heart wants you cant just be with someone because you do not want to hurt them. Express everything that is on your mind tell him how you feel and don't let him feel like you are ignoring him it could hurt him a lot. Being straight forward is always the best thing in my mind. I hope things work out for you and if you need a friend to talk to I am here