I have had a problem with my older sister these past few months. She and her husband moved back into my mother’s house about six months ago because they are trying to save money before they leave to medical school.
These six months have been horrible.
At first, it wasn’t bad with them living downstairs but now my sister is getting on my nerves. They moved in when she was about seven months pregnant and she was very, very easily pissed off (ex: she locked me out of the house mid-blizzard{I live in Alaska} because I cut the roast wrong that Sunday. I had to break in through my window, ruining my window lock in the process) but she always told me and my two other siblings that we were being too sensitive when we told her she needed to calm down. I expected her to be easily provoked so I didn’t think anything of it. It wasn’t until a few weeks ago when she really got on my nerves.
My parents got a divorce because my father was very irresponsible when it came to money and family. I can’t even remember one birthday of mine when he was present. He has been trying to make up for lost time ever since the divorce and has apologized to my siblings and I for not being there when we were younger. I knew my father still had some habits he needed beat out of him but I could tell he was truthful. My sister, though, was a whole other story.
She would call him names I won’t repeat here and then, when he would call, act like nothing had ever happened. One day, out of the blue, she asked my other sister and I, “You guys know I hate Dad, right?” My other sister looked at me with the most confused look on her face. I’m sure I looked the same.
My sister(the one I’m having problems with) continued to say “If you knew what I knew, you’d want to murder that man. He is such a horrible person and I hope he burns because I’ll provide a match.”
I sure as heck didn’t want to hear that. Sure, my mom probably told her things she didn’t tell us (because we are younger than the sister I’m having problems with) but she was trying to ruin my relationship with my father. But, when my sister needs something from my father, she acts as if she hadn’t just called him a selfish bastard.
Not only has she done this with my father, but she has done it to my brother-in-law and my sister’s boyfriend. My sister used to(and still does) have a huge problem with my brother-in-law before my other sister and him got married. She would always say “He’s going to beat the shit out of her if they get married!”. Then, if my sister ever needed something from my brother-in-law, she would get all nice and cozy with him. It would infuriate me.
Luckily, my sister and her husband are moving in July but I don’t know what to do ’till then. My other siblings are a bust and my parents are still fighting and they don’t need anything else to worry about.
The most ironic part about this is that my sister is a therapist.
Do I just keep my mouth shut or tell her what I think? I love my sister and I don’t want to ruin our relationship but I feel like I’m going to punch a hole into a wall.
Sorry for the long message.