My parents told me a couple weeks ago that they are getting a divorce. It wasn’t that big of a deal to me- I’m not very close with my family. But as of late, both my mother and my father have been trying to get closer to me. They will randomly come into my room to talk to me about things like the weather. The thought of getting closer to my family makes me extremely uncomfortable, as I have gone so long without really needing them emotionally. It sort of feels as if they are cramming the whole family love thing down my throat and I’m just choking on it. I’ve tried explaining that getting closer to them makes me uncomfortable, but they don’t seem to understand what I am saying. The relationship that I have with my family has always been pretty toxic to me- it constantly makes me feel confused and uncomfortable and lost, and like the only reason they want me around is to assure them that they aren’t awful people. I do have a brother, but I haven’t talked to him in years and the vibe I get from him indicates that he doesn’t really like me all too much. As far as I know, they haven’t told him yet about the divorce.
It’s not really the divorce that’s bothering me, it’s how my parents are reacting to it and are suffocating me affection that really just feels fake to me. Is there any way that I could let them know that it makes me uncomfortable without hurting their feelings but in a way that they will actually understand, or should I just put up with it until I can go to college and leave my family and all the baggage that comes with them behind?
