Did I make the right choice having sex with my girlfriend?

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So tonight my girlfriend and I (we’re both 16) had sex for the first time. It was mutually agreed upon and I enjoyed and from what I can tell/understand she did too. BUT, I mean I did just lose my virginity. I can’t get that back. I kind of regret it yet at the same time I’m glad it happened. I’m kinda confused about how to feel about this.
Any advice?

P.S – if you’re lyrical goose or anyone else who’s going to trash talk me, just please don’t say anything.

Category: Tags: asked June 28, 2013

5 Answers

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If I were you, I'd just think about why it bothers you, and question that. Because it sounds like everything did go okay, and it was great, but some part of you is unhappy. Figure out what that part of you is thinking, and challenge the assumptions behind the thoughts. Basically, just explore how you feel about this. Losing your virginity can be a big deal, so it's worth thinking about, but at the same time nothing has been lost. You've gained new experience and new perspective. It might help to change the way you're thinking about what "losing your virginity" means.
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I think you should definitely talk to her about it. Losing your virginity is (or at least should be) a big thing, so you should really sit her down and have a conversation about it. Ask her how she felt about it, get and understand her feelings on the event and also tell her how you feel! Talk it out! Hope I could help! - xoxo Darling Alice
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Honestly, I am not quite sure why people are getting the thumbs down for saying sex is okay and not that big of a deal. It's only a big deal when you get someone pregnant. WHOOPS. Protection is important. I'm not saying birth control, get condoms. But, that does not really answer your question. What makes it special; is having sexual interaction with the person you love, and know you are going to spend the rest of your life with. It's not the first time you lose your virginity. Passionate love making is the best. It's my view on this, not trying to get everybody else to agree with me. If the sex with your girlfriend bothers you, it's alright. My first sex bothered me too, and a part of me did regret it. But now I am over it. Because right now I am with a man that I am going to marry in a few years. Not now because I am only 18. Well, 19 soon but lol whatever. We often talk about how we're going to make a gaming room, or how he is going to take care of me when I am pregnant and go to the groceries for me. That actually made me cringe. It's grossly cute. But, what I am trying to say is... it's okay. I just want you to be able to experience the same thing later on, and you will. Many people have had sexual interactions with different people. Different experiences and what not with each person. You just have to be careful, is all. I am not telling you to go and have one night stands. Just do not think too much of it. But, I'd say talk to your girlfriend about it and see what she thinks.
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Dude you just had SEX for the first time! Start doing backflips! Stop thinking negatively about this. Yeah i guess it could be a lil confusing and should talk to your girl about it. but dam dude congrats on losing the "big v". Just be happy you got some instead of the 40-50 year old guys who can't get any at all!
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Virginity is a social construct! The only reason why you may or may not feel bad about losing your fictitious V-Card is because of what society has told us about virginity. It is not sacred nor is it important. The only thing that matters when it comes to sex is consent and safety. As long as you're having safe, consensual sex, you should be perfectly fine!