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Did I do the right thing?


I dated this guy for about half a year until I caught him cheating on me. Red-handed. I have couple friends with me (guys and girls) with me when I, well we found out he’s cheating on me. I won’t go into detail how he cheated but let just say it was pretty fucked up. That night, I confronted him and ended it short and simple. He was very angry and pissed off and say very mean and hurtful things to me, but I kept quiet and remain no contact. We haven’t talked for about 2 months now. Do you guys think he will come back and apologize? Will he realized his mistake and come forth? What do you think made him act that way when I break up with him? Did I over react?

Category: Tags: asked June 3, 2013

3 Answers

Absolutely not, you did the right thing. You should never allow yourself to accept being treated like that by anybody. Unfortunately, I think that the fact he lashed out when you did what anyone should do, shows a lack of remorse and great immaturity. So, sadly I don't think he'll be strong enough to come apologize and admit that he was wrong in what he did and what he said. You'll just have to know that you did what was best for you and be happy with that.
Relationships can be really difficult things. I don't think that there's really a right or wrong. People sometimes cheat because they have other issues and are venting them in inappropriate ways. For example, my girlfriend cheated on me because of her childhood sexual abuse. But no matter what, the most important thing to remember is that you need to take care of yourself in a relationship. You shouldn't feel guilty about choosing to leave someone who made you feel unhappy. Whether you seek to reconcile with him is your choice. It may be a better option to seek out another person to be happy with. I'm sure there are many other people out there who would love to be with you and make you happy. If you do choose to try and delve into this issue with him, tread carefully. Don't sacrifice all of your own happiness just for his. He might even need counseling, so do not take all of his burdens onto yourself. If you choose this route, take things slow and see what happens. No matter what though, everything is going to be okay. Take a deep breath. Have a glass of water. Maybe eat a cookie.
Relationships are important. They are more than just a little thing; like marriage, there's no point in being with someone who isn't the absolute best person for you. He did the wrong thing and betrayed your trust. You absolutely did the right thing in breaking up with him, and maybe he will come back to apologise, or maybe he won't - but if he does, you have to consider something. Whether or not you can trust him; whether you deserve better than him. Ultimately whatever makes you happy is what was right.