Dealing with loss…

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Yesterday was the four year anniversary of my dad’s death…I’m feeling really down and I have no idea what to think or do. I haven’t slept in days and I’m not feeling any better. I just want to know what people would suggest on getting past death and the problems losing someone.

Category: asked October 16, 2013

7 Answers

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Honestly I have not been in the position of losing a parent but I would also not want to even wish that on my worst enemy. Any loss of a loved one is going to be hard just the thought that you don't get to see them everyday like you used to is not easy for anyone. The only advice I could give just from only losing friends and grandparents.. but my advice would be; know that he loved you and even though yes it is tough but also it was an obvious blessing you got sometime with him. My half older sister lost her father about almost two years ago, and all I can do for her is be there for her and understand that its natural to miss someone but also be happy for the good times and even possible times that you did get with them..
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I'm not sure if this is something that a person gets over. I think its just easier to handle with time. You will always miss him and situations will come up that would have been perfect or remind you of him or that you thought he'd be around for. The only thing I can suggest is remembering the good things. Maybe worked towards something to honor his memory. Something that makes you feel good while remembering him anf this could be something you share with him in spirit. Its weird to explain I guess, and everyone would need to find their own way of dealing with things, but.. Remembering him isn't bad. Try to let go of that feeling. You shouldn't feel sad when you think about him, you should feel happy or proud, always enjoy his memory.
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I have lost somebody before, and you don't really get over it. I Haven't really let go either but I'm much better. I knew That they are in a much better place. I still think about them and I get sad but I make sure I remind myself. It's really hard because It took me about 6-7 to finally accept the fact that they weren't coming back. it's going to be tough but you have to be tougher.
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my dad just died in January, and im really sorry its been four years for you! i love my dad more than anything in the world! what you should do to spend the day is spend it doing something you and your dad loved doing together, cook his favorite meal, doing something helps us understand that he is no longer here anymore but we need to do something, dwelling on the fact that he is no longer here not good!
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I've lost my mother, and it will keep hurting you if you keep remembering. I'm not saying to forget about your dad, far from it. Try to think about other things and eventually when you do think about your dad you won't be sad, you'll think about the great times you had with him. I hope this helped out.
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I know that after a string of losses in my family, a cousin, great grandmother, and two grandfathers in the space of 3 years it was difficult for me to think of any of them. I just kept their pictures hidden away until I was ready. It took a long time before I could think of them without breaking down and to get through it I would spend a lot of time with friends when an important date would come around, like birthdays so that I wouldn't be alone and I'd have a little distraction.
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I an not a particularly religious person; however I have had numerous spiritual experiences that made me realize that they are not dead but actually moved on from the physical world. I know it's something that's very difficult to comprehend logically but when someones passes away the only thing that is gone would be their vehicle that they have used while in this world which is their body.