My girlfriend attempted suicide, and I’m so lucky she’s alive. She’s currently an inpatient at a mental ward. But, I feel so guilt about what happened. I feel like it’s all my fault. How do I get over these feelings?
you don't need to feel guilty sometimes you cant tell when a person is that depressed. Focus on what lies ahead and on what youll do with her when she gets out. Sometimes all a person needs is a little extra love and care. don't feel guilty because she tried feel happy about all the love and joy youll give when they come out
As someone who often contemplated doing so for years, I can promise you that it is not your fault and there's little to nothing you could have done. I remember feeling sad and angry and isolated, even though looking back I was surrounded by people who were trying to help me. But now you know. So be gentle at first when she is released. But at some point you need to speak honestly that what she almost did hurt you and scared you and that it isn't okay to bail on you and everyone else. I have a friend who was hospitalized probably five times after suicide attempts and after a fairly extensive talk along those lines it has been over a year since she has come close. But as far as getting over your feeling, there is no simple way. In my opinion the best way is to get her back on her feet.
It isn't your fault, with a traumatic even such as this it's easy to get lost in feelings of regret and what ifs. You just have to realize that it isn't your fault, just be there for her and comfort her. It isn't your fault it takes time but try to realize that you didn't do anything wrong.
There are amazing answers here already but I wanted to show you my way to stop feeling guilty. Did you ask for that to happen to her? Did you directly force her to do it?... Then it is not your fault. It is no one's fault really.
The same happened with me a few days back...i felt guilty too with no reason but then i comforted her and took care of her and it made me feel alot better..now we both are happy and blissed..have faith and love her.
If you learn more about depression and suicide, you can learn that it wasn't your fault, nor was it your girlfriend's. I don't believe in blame. I believe in taking responsibility. It is not your responsibility to prevent people from taking their lives. It is your girlfriend's responsibility to take care of herself and get better so she doesn't feel the need to try taking her life. No one is to blame. I've been the suicidal one who had to convince my husband it wasn't his fault. I hope your girlfriend feels better soon.
Understand that suicide and what causes it goes much deeper than things outside of herself. It's something in her HEAD, something in the way she's feeling and her aspect of the world around her. You could be by her side through everything, support her through everything, and she'd still do the same thing. It's not anything to do with you.