Dead Loved One


I was just notified that my Grandfather is dead. Well, I actually figured it out MYSELF, since my mother has nothing to do with my biological father’s side of the family (and since I live with my mom and 2 days away from my father… Wel I’m sure you understand). I don’t want to scream at my mom for not telling me, but I don’t want her or my “step-dad” to try and comfort me. I just want to be alone.

I feel really confused about this entire thing. I mean, I’ve been crying for almost 4 hours now, and I just feel empty. I don’t feel sad, or angry, or depressed. I just feel like a robot.

Is this even normal? I haven’t seen my grandpa ever since I was a little girl, but he was a rather large part of my childhood. And he is te first loved one to ever die in my life.

I don’t want to talk about it, I don’t want to eat or sleep, I just want to lay down and cry with my headphones blasting ‘The Neighborhood’. How can I go to school tomorrow and act normal and laugh when he’s DEAD?! How is that even fair?

Category: Tags: asked September 18, 2014

2 Answers

Yes, I'd say this kind of behavior is normal. I think you just need rest at this point. You're completely drained from crying - though crying is good to get it out of your system. Make sure you're drinking enough water at least. Is it possible for you to take a day off from school for mental health?
you're in shock hun, that's completely normal. There are several stages of grief and they're all important to go through. If you don't feel like you're able to go to school right now, I think that's fair enough for a few days, but remember to carry on, even though it hurts. Let yourself grieve and let others be there for you to comfort you. Losing a loved one is really hard, I know...but you will get through it, it'll hurt a little bit less as time goes on and you will be able to remember the good memories you had with that person and smile with peace in your heart. It's okay that it takes a while to get there, but you will get there.