Dating Depression

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So I’ve been dating this girl for about a couple months and it turns out she has depression. However, she only just decided to tell me, and I’m really not sure how to react. I’ve only had one other experience being in a relationship with someone who had depression and she turned out to be nothing short of selfish, overly emotional, and controlling. I see the warning signs all around me, but I’d feel like a heartless jerk leaving yet another relationship because I can’t handle the amount of stress that it puts me through seeing someone in so much pain and dragging me down with them. The girl I’m currently dating is significantly different in personality, but I see the all-too-recognizable pattern of instability and it’s tearing me up inside thinking I’m going to have to take up another caretaker role in the relationship. I’m not happy, and I want out before things get out of hand. Suggestions?

Category: asked April 22, 2013

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My best friend was in a similar relationship like you, and I talked to him a lot about it, so maybe his/my experiences help you a little bit...So he knew that his girlfriend was depressive and also thought about killing herself. He was really scared because of that so he tried to sleep over every night to make sure nothing would happen to her. Not to mention that he didn't dare leaving her even though he had no feelings for her anymore... He decided to talk to her parents ( they dated almost 2 years so he was comfortable with that) and tell them his situation and that he really cares about their daughter but he doesn't love her anymore and that he's really worried about her. Then he talked almost a day with her about his worrys, but also that he wanted to end the relationship because the whole situation was too much for him... Now both of them are (more or less) happy again and he never "regret" his decision...So I personally think if you are sure that you won't be able to handle the situations, you should talk to your gf and tell her that you don't think you can be with her in a relationship anylonger. If you think you can help her with all that stuff, make sure you also have some time for yourself, because otherwise it will take you down too...I hope this helps, even if it's just a little bit.. Feel free to text me if you want to talk/ask something ;)