confusing reunion

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Roughly a year ago I fell in love for the first time with my best friend but at the same time I realized that this was the case she began seeing someone else. I saw at the begining of their realationship that she was happy so I butted out and didn’t say anything to her about my feelings for her. By this time I was already an emotional trainwreck I could not stop thinking about her and worrying about her. A few weeks after she started seeing this guy she stopped talking to me completely, I found out later from a mutual friend that her boyfriend didn’t want her talking to ke or any of her other guy friends. Needless to say I was a little mad and after a couple weeks of no communication I felt heart broken. I then spent the last 9 months trying to get over her and to stop thinking of her. I finally beleived that I was over her and then she starts talking to me again. I find out that she is single that she broke up with the other guy because he was to overbareing and controlling. I am not sure what I should do, I finally thought I was over her but once she began talking with me I began acting exactly how I had used to do. I’m not sure what to do now whenever I’m talking with her now I feel imcredibly awkward and I get that sinking feeling in my stomach even when I’m just thinking about her. Any advice on what I can do?

Category: asked July 15, 2014

3 Answers

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Why don't you try writing her a letter or an email telling her what you just said above? Girls like honesty and openness. If you want to let her know your feelings, just be honest. It's better than having knots in your stomach every time you talk to her... Good luck!
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"Her boyfriend didn’t want her talking to me or any of her other guy friends." — this was very unfair to be honest, but its good she realised that the guy too overpossessive . Well, now you have another chance,and if you really like her why waste it? Tell her, or as phoenixgirl said, write a letter. You are her bestfriend and you have probably always been there for her, I'm sure she appreciates that......maybe she is confused herself. Its better to take a risk,than regret not telling her in the first place. :)
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This won't sound very original, but definitely tell her. I wouldn't do anything long-winded like a letter. No need to confess your undying devotion right as she starts talking to you again. I actually advise largely against it. Just say that you really like her, and that you have for awhile. You think you guys have always gotten along really well, and one day you just sort of realized it was more to you than that. Then just let her ask questions. If she says no, the worst that happens is she stops talking to you, then it's easier to get over her. If she says yes? You'll be happy you took the risk. If you say nothing? Yu have to watch from the sidelines as she finds a new guy and starts dating him while you're stuck as the good friend.