Confused about this girl

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When I was 13 I met this girl. She was 11 at the time and we became fast friends. We were never an official couple but we told each other that we loved one another though I honestly didn’t mean it. She lived an hour away and we only saw each other 3 times in person. The rest was all online or on the phone. After a while I was getting tired and annoyed by her childish behavior and her obsessive attitude and started to become a giant asshole (pardon my language). I found another girl when I was almost 15 and I left the other girl and started to seriously date the new girl. After that relationship was over it was a few months later and the other girl started calling me again. She is still the same childish and obsessive girl. I didn’t want to be an ass like I was last time so I just kept talking to her and then eventually I stopped answering and she got the hint. The same thing happened when I turned 18. She started talking to me again and AGAIN was really obsessive and childish. Now I am going on 20 and she is going on 18 and she has started talking to me again. She tells me she still loves me and everything and she is still just as childish and annoying as ever yet this time I can’t help but enjoy our conversations at times. I am just very confused about the whole situation. How can she still want to talk to me after everything? Why am I enjoying this just a little? I don’t get any of it.

asked June 21, 2013

3 Answers

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From what you say, I extract the idea that she's enjoying it quite a bit... mainly, she seems like a female Peter Pan who uses you as an excuse for not growing up. And you, friend, you seem like you're craving the attention quite a little bit, or that you don't know how to cast her away. You're really reinforcing each other's conducts, so it's up to one of you (preferrably you) to clear up the mess. If you don't want her in your life, tell her that. If you keep playing the ambiguous role, you'll still have her all over you.
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Logseman had good advice, but it may not be the only answer. It could be that she really is in love with you and trying to do things the right way by giving you your space and trying to grow up for you. If she's getting better and you enjoy her company, maybe give it a try. Maturity differences can be hard, but they can be worked through, definitely. If you have feelings for her, give it a try. If you're not truly interested, however, don't toy with her. It wouldn't be fair. Ball's in your court now.
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"Love" is a strong word. You probably was her first love. And to some, of course no one would forget about their first love, because they have either learned from it. No personality is perfect. Don't play with each other, if possible meet her again. Have a conversation, talk the feelings out. If you feel different about her give it a try. There's a reason why she keep occurring in your life, and it may be good or bad. But don't hide the feelings. Best of luck.