3 days ago my mom was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer which already metastasized all over her abdominal linings and organs which made the doctor decided not to removed the tumor anymore since it’ll only end up in bleeding and risking more of whats left in her life. The doctor suggested chemotherapy might help her prolong her life but not a guarantee. i asked about her lifespan and he said 1 year is the maximum. I’m quite confused if i should let her try chemotherapy since way back i’ve only seen patients who’ve suffered more than actually being eased and yes the it drains a lot of money in the families pockets.. Or should i just stick to herbal remedies which includes letting her drink guyabano (soursop) fruit juice without the side effects of chemo?
I'm sorry. I don't know why you said "Should let her", like this is your decision. I think you need to sit down with her and talk about how she wants to deal with this. The chemo maybe will buy her some more time, although it will make her feel bad at intervals. I assume you talk about alternative remedies within the context of her choosing to spare herself the chemo, with her doctor's approval, if it would mean she would live less time but more comfortable (this is something you need to check with the doctor, would she be sort of fine until a drastic decline towards the end? Would it be a progressive decline? Would the chemo slow down her decline?). At the very minimum, chemo or not, be sure to make use of the pain management services offered by your health care providers.
Homeopathic medicine is wonderful for SMALL things, like a cold or a small cut. For bigger problems, like cancer, stick with science. We have it for a reason. Homeopathic remedies (like smoking pot) will work for managing pain, but you can't chew willow bark and magically shrink tumors. Trying to use homeopathic medicine for cancer is like throwing a glass of water at the sun, expecting to put it out. Believe me, I love natural remedies. I'm a Pagan. I have a cabinet full of different herbs, and I know what they will do for different things (like using clove for pain). But you better believe that if I found out I had cancer, my ass would be marching right to an oncologist. This post reminded me of those nutjobs in the northern US who have no problems letting children die of easily treated conditions because they honestly believe God will heal them. Pro tip: it doesn't work.
As a cancer survivor, I want you to understand that these homeopathic things have mostly been proven to be ineffective for anything other than minor symptoms relief. Your mothers Cancer is at an advanced stage and regardless of the course of treatment, she is facing the end of life and has the right to choose how she lives it. In consultation with a medical doctor, she should find the balance that is going to serve her best. I went through a year of chemo and radiation almost 30 yrs ago and it nearly killed me while saving my life. Today the chemo is radically improved but still has some horrible side effects. I'm sure there is a course of treatment that will preserve her quality of life enough so that she can enjoy her remaining time and go out on her own terms. That's what I would want, but it's her decision to make, it's her life.
There are natural remedies for cancer that are way better for cancer than chemo or radiation. They normally don't work in the advanced stages as well as they do in the early. Talk to her about what she wants, chemo is a hell of a thing to got through if it's not going to help, but it could be the best option. These people probably have no idea the actual effects of natural remedies. Do some research, talk with you mother, and figure out what's good for her. (p.s., try baking soda. 2 tablespoons, twice a day, for two weeks)
I think a healthy diet would be more effective than herbal remedies. I've know someone who had cancer and cured themselves through eating super healthy (no chemo). However, there's no reason a person cannot do both because a person needs excellent Nutrition while they're undergoing Chemo treatments anyway. It sounds like a really rough situation. If it were me, I don't think I would want to do the chemo but that's just me. I saw my mother-in-law and father-in-law go through it and they died anyway. But some people say it's more painful without the chemo so I don't know. Looks like there's mixed opinions. I guess it depends on the person and the type of caner, how bad it is etc.
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