Can’t get over a break up. It’s been 9 months


Wtf do I do?

Category: Tags: asked April 21, 2015

3 Answers

First off, I'm really sorry you're having so much trouble with it. I know it sucks and can be really really hard. But I think it's difficult for someone to tell you what to do to get over a break up because everyone does it differently. I think it's even harder to tell someone how to get over a breakup when you don't know anything about that relationship or breakup. I also don't think you have to necessarily get over a person, instead you should be able to think about the happy times with that person and smile, rather than being sad. With that being said, if you haven't already, I think it's really helpful to be completely open with yourself about it. It's good to think about it even if it hurts to think about, it's how you get it stop hurting so badly. Think about all of the goods times and all of the bad times. Remember that loving someone doesn't mean you should be with them.
Hello how are you doing. I know people might make it seem that we need to get over someone within a certain amount of time, and when we dont do that we start to think that maybe its been too long but honestly I believe let it take you as long as you need to get over it but continue to live your life. I know reading this may sound crazy or silly but it is true you can hurt over someone until you feel it is time. I spent 2 years wondering what happened to my ex boyfriend. It was one day we were super happy and the next day it was all over. I loved him a lot and it took me two years to completely get over him, but it didnt stop me from living. There were days were I was sad and there is nothing wrong with that. If you feel you need to cry cry. Holding back those emotions will only make it harder to get over whatever you are going through. Every relationship that we go through is a life experience that we learn from. If you ever want to talk about it I've been through it you can always talk to me or add me as a friend and we can keep in touch whenever you need someone. Try not to think there is a time limit to be sad you have every right to be just dont let it take over your life. you will find the person you should be with for the rest of your life just give it time and you will be happier then you have ever been with that person
Hey, I know it seems tough right now. How could it not? It's been nine months, and you're probably telling yourself that you're being stupid, that you need to get over your ex, that dwelling doesn't do any good. But while dwelling isn't good, it's also important to remember that everyone heals differently, and that it takes time. And that's okay. You don't need to be 100% fixed at a certain date after a breakup. Hell, depression can even occur because of a breakup, and that's normal. It's okay to not have this resolved quite yet. The important thing is that you get it resolved fully, not that you do it quickly.

Keep moving forward. You have to remind yourself of the good things in life that aren't related to your ex. Find new hobbies and start new goals, like learning to play an instrument, getting a new pet, starting a new book series, beating a video game, learning a new language, trying unfamiliar restaurants in or around your area, etc. Remember to wait until you feel comfortable to start up a new romantic relationship. The important thing about relationships is not to need one to be happy; you find your own personal, independent happiness and find someone who you are willing to exchange happiness with.

If you're getting worried, don't be ashamed to see a counselor or a therapist. It's not strange or weird to be so broken up over a breakup. It's a major life change, and no matter how small or even how positive, any source of stress can negatively impact the body.

Good luck!